Today, I’d like to talk about your accomplishments. Yes, your accomplishments.
The truth is, living with ADHD is itself an accomplishment. It requires strength, resilience, and figuring out how to adapt to a world that isn’t eager to adapt to you. But that’s actually not the accomplishment I want to talk about.
I’m thinking of the accomplishments that are more unique to you. Really, any time you achieved something that made you proud, whether or not it was something that that seems like a big deal in the grand scheme of things.
Maybe you wrote a really good paper for school. Maybe you came up with an unexpected solution to a problem at work. Maybe you were able to support a friend in a way that was meaningful for them when they needed it. Or maybe you have a hobby you’ve gotten good at even though you get nothing in return except the sheer enjoyment of it.
I’m not bringing up these accomplishments just to give you a pat on the back – although you deserve one, of course. Actually, I want to ask you a question: when you were accomplishing these things, how did you feel?
I’m going to make a guess that you felt a sense of purpose and reward. You were engaged and interested in what you were doing. On some level, you felt this was what you were meant to be doing, in the sense that your skills and way of thinking matched the task at hand.
It’s interesting how when ADHDers feel this way, we start to change. We become, motivated, persistent, focused – sometimes even hyperfocused. It’s in this mental state of being locked into a task that’s meaningful and stimulating that many of our accomplishments seem to come from.
Tapping into that energy is a game-changer. Unfortunately, we can’t just tap into it whenever we want. No matter how hard I try, I’ll never feel a great sense of purpose doing my laundry. I won’t ever be filling out Form 1040 and stop to think “Yes, this is it, this is what I’m meant to be doing.” But I can seek out hobbies that make me feel that way, and if I’m lucky, maybe I’ll even find a job that does.
Enough about me, though. Let’s talk about you, and specifically the thing we’re here to talk about – your accomplishments.
My point here is that reflecting on your moments of success is a good way to learn about what activities and environments you flourish in. That insight is precious, because it’s the first step to creating a life that is more in harmony with how your brain functions.
Feel free to share your accomplishments below!