So are people with ADHD just generally out of sync?
According to one paper published recently in Medical Anthropology, the answer is yes. The paper’s author conducted a series of interviews with people who had ADHD and concluded that many of them experienced ADHD as “a state of desynchronization and arrhythmia.”
1) an inner restlessness and bodily arrhythmia; 2) an intersubjective desynchronization between the individual and its surroundings; and 3) a feeling of lagging behind socially due to difficulties in social skills.
This idea that being “out of sync” with the world around you is a big part of the ADHD experience certainly rings true with me. When I saw this paper, a number of other ways in which having ADHD can mean operating on a different “rhythm” came to mind:
- Being impatient and always wanting to move on to the next thing
- Having trouble estimating how long tasks will take
- Being stuck in the present and not planning for the future
- Being motivated by short-term rewards and not being good at delaying gratification
- Often running late
- Maintaining an atypical sleep-wake schedule
Of course, it’s hard to say what the cause-and-effect is here, a point the paper I linked to above acknowledges. For example, do people with ADHD have trouble delaying gratification because they perceive time differently or do they perceive time differently because they’re wired to prioritize short-term rewards? Or both, or neither?
In any case, though, it does seem like there’s something to the idea that people with ADHD are out of sync with society. Sometimes we get impatient and do things too fast, other times we lose track of time and do things late. Too fast or too slow, the result is similar: struggling to “find the beat” and get back in rhythm with the world around us.
What’s your experience? Do you feel like part of having ADHD is being “out of sync”? Please share below!