Yes. Let’s play a game. Where’s my coffee cup?
After 61 years of life I’ve gotten pretty good at figuring out what I might have done with things I misplace.
My coffee cup will be on a flat surface that is handy to the location where I last picked up something or things that required more than one hand.
It will not necessarily be at eye level, it will not necessarily be in my sight line when I’m walking through searching, but it will be getting cold.
Did I mention I hate cold coffee?
Another one is my keys. I’m pretty good at finding them as well, but after years of living with ADHD I’ve gotten into the habit of putting them on the hook where they belong.
And when I go to get them off the hook, if they’re not there I don’t panic. Well, not right away.
Let’s play “Where’s My Keys?”
The first place I look is in my pocket. I mean, like most people with ADHD I have a lot of things on my key ring. So the keys are pretty bulky. But like many men with ADHD I have a lot of things in my pocket too, so a set of keys could be in there and I wouldn’t necessarily notice the added bulk.
This is not to say that my keys are either on the hook or in my pocket. They’re just usually one of those two places.
The strangest place I’ve found them in my life was laid carefully beside the take out leftovers in the fridge.
When looking for things …
I’ve had lots of practice looking for things as you might well imagine. And I find that it has honed my logic skills to a fine point.
I track back in my mind to the last time I remember having what I’m looking for, then contemplate what I’ve done since then to give myself an idea of the scope of my search area.
I then systematically look from most recent place back until I find the item.
If I think I likely lost the item closer to the last time I remember having it, then I’ll start with the place I was when I last had it and work my way forward.
When I have checked a place I mark it in my mind as not likely being where the item will be found, though I’m aware that I am pretty ingenious when it comes to finding places to set things down.
And all this is part of my life on a daily basis. And my skills come in handy often. I’ve found more often than not.
If, on the other hand, it’s something I misplaced more than an hour ago, then all bets are off. That thing is gone for good. Buy a new one.