Yesterday we talked about ADHD weather, the way things seem to storm and rage in our lives and often every possible aspect of every storm seems to come all at once, or at least one after another, overlapping until we are swamped and buried by the torrents.
And shelter is what is needed.
But where is that found?
ADHD shelter is not a place, I’m afraid, so there are no directions to get there.
Google Maps can’t help you
Well, if one of your problems is how to get to some place you’ve never been to or have been to a thousand times but suddenly can’t find, maybe Google Maps could help.
But the shelter we need is more of an emotional thing.
We’re looking for the calm inside the storm.
Isn’t that called the eye?
Yes, it is, and when you encounter the eye of an actual storm you need to realize that you’ve only come half way through the bad part of it.
But what if you could be the eye of that storm?
When things go bad for me, when things get crazy, when I’m a victim of the ADHD weather systems that we all know so well, I find some help in giving myself a bit of a mental shake.
I’ve discovered that the “logic” of emotion is flawed. When I’m up against the tense and stressful problems that plague us, I have found that it helps immensely to remember that if everything is going to go wrong anyway, if we cannot help but fail, if we are circling the drain, we might as well take a moment to calmly contemplate the situation.
When things seem to be about to explode, that’s when I like to remind myself to take a breath, contemplate my options, consider especially the ones that seem counter-intuitive, and make a plan to see if there isn’t something salvagable out of the situation.
It doesn’t always work
True, sometimes the whole mess is just going to collapse on you. But if that’s going to happen anyway, why not stop, take notes, observe, see if there isn’t something salvageable out of it all.
And in addition to the possibility of making things better, you may find that the lessened stress makes it less likely that you will walk away from one storm and into another, or at least it might make you better able to deal with the next ADHD weather system that comes your way.
ADHD weather, just like meteorologic weather, is always coming your way, but less stress, and more calm presence will lessen the impact.
It’s like shelter from the storm, or it’s at least a half descent umbrella.