I’ve occasionally heard people refer to their ADHD as a storm of symptoms.
Things get wild, unpredictable, winds change direction and speed. Sometimes it rains and sometimes it pours.
And every now and then, there’s lightning. And lightning rarely comes without damage.
Is this what ADHD is like?
Yes! Oh yes it is
But why isn’t it consistently like this? Well, for some it likely seems to be. For others, the storms seem to come and go.
No two of us are alike. Some of us are able to deal with some types of stress with some success, others have different abilities.
But none of us escape the ADHD weather completely. It is what we are saddled with.
So why does this weather come and go?
Circumstance is one aspect. Stress comes in two forms, applied and created.
When we worry about things that haven’t happened yet, may not ever happen, we are creating stress for ourselves. This stress exacerbates our symptoms and may even cause us to worry even more, and about even more things than we were originally dwelling on.
Applied stress comes when obligations arrive or are announced. If you don’t believe me, let me ask you, are your taxes up to date? Even if they are, that gave you a bit of a jolt didn’t it?
Beyond just weather, we get storms of symptoms.
Hormones affect us. Seasons affect us. medications and addictions and activities affect us. Relationships affect us, both romantic and familial and there is little we can do about these things.
Unlike real storms
ADHD storms can come out of the blue. Just when we think we’re cruising along and getting things accomplished, we’ll suddenly remember something that we’d forgotten.
And as we struggle to figure out the fix for that, some back part of our mind that has somehow remained calm will speak up and say something like, “At least we don’t have to …” whatever thing might make our lives even more hellish, and we’ll suddenly realize that we actually do have that to do as well.
It never rains but what it pours?
How many times have you heard that? Said it yourself? Another way ADHD weather is unlike real weather is that it accumulates in groups of dissimilar psychologically meteorologic patterns and then strikes just when we think we’re doing well.
When was the last time it snowed, rained, sleeted, and hailed in the middle of a wind storm while across the street you could see the sun shining.
That never happens in real weather, but when you’re talking about ADHD weather, that’s exactly what you expect, or rather, what you don’t expect but know is likely waiting for you.
ADHD weather is off the Beaufort scale. And I for one could use some shelter.
Let’s talk about that tomorrow.