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ADHD Is Not For The Faint Of Heart


Pay attention to this!
If you can …

Do you like to challenge yourself?

Do you think you can handle anything life throws at you?

Do you believe you have what it takes to deal with ADHD?

I ask for two reasons.

First

I know that a lot of people aren’t as aware of what it’s like to have ADHD. They take the name of the disorder at face value and accept that it is a deficiency of attention, when in reality it is far from that.

In fact ADHD is an over abundance of attention, so much attention that we have to spread it around and focus it on many different things in staccato bursts.

And second

Well, if you think you can handle having ADHD, I’d like for you to take over mine for a little while, give me a break, you know, for a month or so.

I mean, maybe you could give it a try for an hour and then decide if you could handle it? Yes? Maybe?

What’s it like?

Damn. I was afraid you’d ask that. And I’m too honest to lie.

Let me see if I can explain what attending to life with ADHD is like.

Think about the very next thing you have to do. Maybe let’s say you have to write an email to a coworker regarding a project you’re working on together.

Here:

You open up your email and you slide your mouse over to the “new” button. But there are 17 new emails coming in, and the movement is distracting. You’re determined to just open up a new outgoing email window, but part of your mind is asking if there might not be an important email coming in. The mouse pointer eases closer to its target …

And then the responding part of your mind thinks, “There might be an email from the person I’m about to write to, and if I don’t read it I’ll look stupid sending an email that clearly shows that I didn’t read theirs.”

So the mouse pointer slows down …

… and then stops. And you start reading the incoming subject lines.

Along about the fifth email your mind reminds you that this isn’t a reading thing, you’re actually looking for a specific email, but just now you can’t remember what the criteria was for that email and you decide to holistically skim emails hoping that the one you’re looking for will trigger your memory.

Trust me, this does happen.

Sadly

Three more emails go by and man they are interesting. And then a fourth one comes up and it’s something that you were supposed to take care of yesterday and it will only take a minute, you’re sure.

And just like that you’ve clicked on that email and opened it up to respond or to get a link or to download an attachment and inside is some detail you’d not considered and now you’re on some wiki looking up something that negates the new aspect because you’re sure it shouldn’t need to be considered.

But the listing for the bit of info that you know has several grammatical errors and one blatantly wrong fact due to an unfortunate double negative so you sign in as the wiki gardener you are and start to correct the item.

And of course, there is some new information available that should be added and you know exactly how you want to say the new part of the entry but there’s a word that escapes you at the moment so you open up your thesaurus in the 37th tab of your browser and there on the edge of the screen is an ad for that gadget you were looking at on @GoodStuffToBuy! last week and you forgot you had decided to buy six of them.

And then you stop, and think …

Maybe there’s a model that does more than just what this one does? I should look that up.

ADHD Is Not For The Faint Of Heart


Kelly Babcock

I was born in the city of Toronto in 1959, but moved when I was in my fourth year of life. I was raised and educated in a rural setting, growing up in a manner I like to refer to as free range. I live on the traditional lands of the Chippewas of Nawash in an area where my family history stretches back 6 or 7 generations and my First Nations friend's families go back hundreds of generations. I was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 50 and have been both struggling with the new reality and using my discoveries to make my life better. I am a freelance writer and I write two blogs here at Psych Central, one about living with ADHD and one that is a daily positive affirmation that acts as an example of finding the good in as much of my life as I possibly can.

Find out more about me on my website: writeofway.

email me at ADHD Man


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Babcock, K. (2020). ADHD Is Not For The Faint Of Heart. Psych Central. Retrieved on August 4, 2020, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/adhd-man/2020/05/adhd-is-not-for-the-faint-of-heart/

 

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