All my life I’ve heard statements like the title of this post. From parents, from teachers, from everyone.
And it has forced me to do things differently.
Other people work in the open. I often work in secret, keeping my successes and failures to myself until I have a completed project.
And even then, I keep some of those completions to myself. I mean, once the stimulation of success wears off, even I can see how unlikely the benefits of some of the things I do actually are.
So, they’re right?
Well, yes, sometimes, but actually … no, all the time.
I do things, I get ideas, I get inspired and I push forward. I try things and I work the angles and the possible alternatives and I make my deductions and come to my conclusions and I succeed or I fail and then I continue or I move on to something else.
But I also learn. And I apply what I’ve learned and I make a profit from both my successes and my failures by making my mind a better, fuller place with knowledge and skills.
So they’re wrong?
In that discouraging people from learning is always wrong, yes, they are wrong.
And yet, it took me quite a few years to learn that making no time to think between conceptualizing and realizing some sudden idea was a bad thing.
I still don’t always take the time to think at that point, but when it all explodes on me I know that I should probably have done that thinking thing and I shake my head and accept my fate because I know what happened.
I guess the point is …
When I think poorly of my schemes, half baked or otherwise, that’s on me. People are their own worst critics, not just because they are hardest on themselves, but because they are the ones who benefit from that critique.
If I ask someone for their opinion on my work, I’m not looking for their abuse. And them abusing my plans and ideas isn’t going to benefit me or them.
So if I hide away?
If I do things quietly and in privacy it is because I have learned how to be most effective in my life.
And if I choose not to be criticized it’s simply because I know what kind of negative effect that will have on me.
And when I’m ready to show off everything I’ve accomplished, that’s when I’ll accept the critics and their thoughts, when they can’t hurt my forward motion in life.
What kind of a half baked scheme is this?
One that I haven’t finished baking yet.
Stand back, I wouldn’t want you to get hurt.
…. no, seriously. Stand back. This could go wrong in any one of a dozen different directions.