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Always Doing Happy Deeds


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ADHD is the single most recognized moniker for our disorder, but the words don’t really represent any one single person with this disorder.

For one thing, we none of us have a deficit of attention, our deficit is in control of our attention.

For another, hyperactivity is not a required symptom, it is only required of those with the primarily hyperactive type of ADHD, and they still have issues with attention control.

Additionally

There are other aspects of our disorder that may be present, may even be worthy of “subtype” importance, that get no credit in the disorder’s name.

For instance, perseverance, our inability to tear ourselves away from something, a video game, a TV show, a book, a project. Why isn’t that a subtype?

“ADHD – primarily perseverant”

Works for me. When I was studying computer programming on my own, I would get up in the morning and disappear into my office, put my head down and pick up right where I left off writing code.

There would be hundreds of pages of the stuff for one single program, and I would be endlessly modifying those lines of code.

I would have to be torn physically from my computer and made to eat meals … and I was 30 years old.

“ADHD – Primarily inappropriate”

I’m working hard on not being this person. I have gotten into the habit of weighing my words before I speak.

Okay, that’s not true really. I’ve gotten into the habit of not saying quite a few words that are usually associated with inappropriateness, and that seems to have helped a lot. And I’ve gotten good at explaining my self and my thoughts after I’ve managed to offend someone.

I haven’t gotten good at being misunderstood though and when someone assumes I’ve said or done something that I know is not me, I am unable to defend myself well. I’m working on that.

Still

I am aware that I could have the primarily inappropriate subtype of ADHD if it existed.

But more to the point of this post, If there was one thing that really defined ADHD I think it would be that we often do things without thinking them through. And we do that because once thought of, an appealing activity clouds our judgement and simply repeats the appeal in our minds until we do the thing.

And the appeal?

The appeal of a thing is that we believe it will make us happy.

Seriously, that’s what drives us, right? We want to be happy. Who doesn’t?

So the spontaneous, inappropriate thing that we persevere at over and over, is really the thing that identifies ADHD in us.

We literally are “Always Doing Happy Deeds.

Except when we’re “Actively Denying Heartbreaking Depositions.

Always Doing Happy Deeds


Kelly Babcock

I was born in the city of Toronto in 1959, but moved when I was in my fourth year of life. I was raised and educated in a rural setting, growing up in a manner I like to refer to as free range. I live on the traditional lands of the Chippewas of Nawash in an area where my family history stretches back 6 or 7 generations and my First Nations friend's families go back hundreds of generations. I was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 50 and have been both struggling with the new reality and using my discoveries to make my life better. I am a freelance writer and I write two blogs here at Psych Central, one about living with ADHD and one that is a daily positive affirmation that acts as an example of finding the good in as much of my life as I possibly can.

Find out more about me on my website: writeofway.

email me at ADHD Man


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Babcock, K. (2020). Always Doing Happy Deeds. Psych Central. Retrieved on September 26, 2020, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/adhd-man/2020/03/always-doing-happy-deeds/

 

Last updated: 10 Mar 2020
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