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Stress, It’s On!

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So, the other day my partner and I were talking about ADHD as it relates to her practice in eye care.

She was not giving out details of patients, she has rules and she’s very conscientious about following them.

But she was talking about how she often sees ADHD come in groups called families.

We’ve discussed the heritability of ADHD and our conversations have confirmed the facts for us both.

She also noted

How often ADHD occurs in blended families has also been a topic for our private discussions. Also, without giving me any details from any of her cases, she has confirmed that the incidence of ADHD is higher in families who have adopted.

We, the people who study this condition either professionally or for personal education and growth, are well aware that impulsivity leads to unwanted pregnancy and adoption. Additionally ADHD often leads to impulsive relationships that fail and then the people from those failed relationships go on to have new relationships where the children are the results of more than one relationship.

Nothing new here, right?

But there are other things we talk about.

One thing is that wrangling a blended family on an outing where two or more of the family members have appointments for health care of any kind is a tricky bit of organization.

And with ADHD, organization is a big thing.

A big STRESSFUL thing!

Now stress is something that affects us negatively. We make mistakes when we’re stressed.

And we make mistakes especially when we’re emotionally stressed.

Stress is the one “over the counter” thing we can get anywhere, from any situation, that has the most side effects.

A calm environment helps

My partner is someone who recognizes that a calm environment, no matter how not calm the patients are, always improves the situation.

She also recognizes that the more accepting she is of her patients and their issues she is, the more likely she is to see them back. And that bodes well for their ongoing eye health.

I’m not sure ….

I know she feels strongly about these things. I know she recognizes certain activities and behaviors and without passing judgement or suggesting diagnosis, she finds the best way to deliver her health care expertise so that it is effective.

And while I am aware that my presence in her life gives her opportunities to practice effective interaction with our people, I have to say that she seems to be a natural and already was when I first met her.

So, I’m not sure that I have much of an effect on her occupation.

But I can tell you

She has a great deal of effect on mine. She provides me with insight into the big, real world and sometimes mentions things about me that are more visible to someone on the outside looking in.

And our talks lately have been around stress and how people deal with it and how we both make efforts to try to reduce it around us for the benefit of ourselves and others who interact with us.

Stress is always on. It’s what drives us, constantly.

And how we deal with it affects not only ourselves, but others around us.

And if we can reduce stress for those around us, the reciprocal effect is that they will cause us less stress.

Try it.

Stress, It’s On!

Kelly Babcock

I was born in the city of Toronto in 1959, but moved when I was in my fourth year of life. I was raised and educated in a rural setting, growing up in a manner I like to refer to as free range. I live on the traditional lands of the Chippewas of Nawash in an area where my family history stretches back 6 or 7 generations and my First Nations friend's families go back hundreds of generations. I was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 50 and have been both struggling with the new reality and using my discoveries to make my life better. I am a freelance writer and I write two blogs here at Psych Central, one about living with ADHD and one that is a daily positive affirmation that acts as an example of finding the good in as much of my life as I possibly can.

Find out more about me on my website: writeofway.

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Babcock, K. (2020). Stress, It’s On!. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 14, 2020, from


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