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In This World

Know there are RULES!
They are there …

In this world there are rules.

Some of them are unwritten, assumed to be known and understood.

Some of them are written, and also assumed to be known and understood.

But the written rules are often written somewhere where they can’t be seen by people living in this world.

And we …

We often have no idea that there are rules, written or unwritten, about the weirdest stuff, like behavior.

We break the rules all the time. And when we try to recover, we usually break more rules.

And while it seems that there is always someone around to tell us that we’ve broken a rule, they rarely seem willing to tell us where all these rules are written down.

Nor will they tell us what the unwritten rules are, so we could maybe write them down at least for ourselves.

Fine. Be that way!

And we’re left right where we were before we broke any rule, trying to try to figure out how to behave.

And the stress from it usually means we’re going to be more … well, us. We’re going to be more ADHD.

Okay, we can’t be more ADHD, but we’re going to experience more of our symptoms and less control.

It almost seems like

It often feels to me like we’re being played here.

Why are these rules so difficult and why are so many unwritten? Why are the ones that are written so inanely ridiculous, and difficult to understand? Why is it that the help we usually receive is not help in understanding the rules but just the buzzer sound of NT’s telling us we broke another rule?

Is it maybe …

Is it possibly because there are people in this world who feel like they win when those around them lose?

Is it that same old story of people who only care about the feeling of getting up in the world and they’re perfectly willing to just push others down in order to get that sensation?

Wait a minute

Maybe I’m going overboard here. I know that not all NT’s are like that. Few of them are really.

But it only seems to take a few to make us feel bad.

All it takes is to sow the seeds of self doubt in us and we falter. We don’t need to have the rug pulled out from underneath us, we just need to be told our rug is poorly made and we’ll trip looking down at it while trying to keep moving forward.

So?

I feel in the mood to give you some advice.

Like yourself. Be proud of yourself.

Break the RULES!
… not our rules.

Conjure your own armor against self doubt and wear it with pride.

The rules were written or imagined to make others feel good.

They’re not our rules.

Don’t let them make you feel bad.

In This World


Kelly Babcock

I was born in the city of Toronto in 1959, but moved when I was in my fourth year of life. I was raised and educated in a rural setting, growing up in a manner I like to refer to as free range. I live in an area where my family history stretches back 6 or more generations. I was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 50 and have been both struggling with the new reality and using my discoveries to make my life better. I write two blogs here at Psych Central, one about having ADHD and one that is a daily positive affirmation that acts as an example of finding the good in as much of my life as I possibly can.

Find out more about me on my website: writeofway.

email me at ADHD Man


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APA Reference
Babcock, K. (2020). In This World. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 4, 2020, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/adhd-man/2020/01/in-this-world/

 

Last updated: 21 Jan 2020
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