Have you heard that one? It’s kind of true and yet kind of not.
Life is a lifetime long, and everyone’s lifetime is different. Mine is this long … so far.
But the point of the sentiment is to urge the listener to not hesitate in attempting to do with your life the things you want to do, to not skip the opportunities to experience that which you wish to experience.
It is not an excuse to be irresponsible!
Listen, life is too short to spend time being sorry about the things you’ve done. So don’t be using the words, “Life is short.” as an excuse for cutting corners or cheating.
But do pay attention to the concept. Especially if you have ADHD.
Time is not a thing we understand well, and we tend to waste it in creative ways.
But sometimes the activities that others call wasting time are exactly what we want to be doing.
So pay attention, okay?
When people talk about meditation and being present, I usually laugh a little and then have the conversation about how difficult that is for someone with no time awareness and no focus control and … well, you know. If you are someone with ADHD, you already know that being, “in the moment” is about as easy as folding bathwater.
But that doesn’t mean we can’t check in with the present now and then, right? And when we do, we should not just ask if what we’re doing is what we’re supposed to be doing, we should ask if it is what we want to be doing. And we should ask if it is something that we will regret having done at some point in the future.
We also need to be honest.
I know, you’re honest. You’d rather eat dirt than tell someone a lie.
But we are notorious for treating ourselves worse than we treat our worst enemies.
So when I say we need to be honest, I mean honest with ourselves. When we check in we need to not just say what we want to hear about what we’re doing. We need to consider what is happening and make an honest observation about it.
You can change your mind if it turns out you were wrong, but it’s easier to err on the side of caution. If you think you’re going to regret your actions, then maybe you should take a break and revisit the activity later.
Sticking a toothbrush into the electrical receptacle is something you might try later, perhaps after doing some research.
Eating all you can eat at the lard bar also might be something you’ll regret. Additionally there are things that may affect others negatively and we know how much we hurt when that happens.
So when I say …
When I say life really is short, I mean it in the sense that I was 18 yesterday and when I check my driver’s license today it turns out I’m 60 years old and looking at having to admit in the next decade or two that I may have reached the halfway point.
And I have regrets, and there are none of them that I couldn’t have made better if I’d only just checked in and thought things over. Because, damn, life is short.