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Moving Forward

Where are you going
… and how will you get there?

Remember when you were a student in school and you were required to write something, an essay or a speech or something of that nature?

Remember how the assignment description would often contain a minimum number of words? And remember how we would eschew contractions to pad the word count? We’d never use “couldn’t” when “could not” would get us an extra word.And the word “and” was better than a period.

But better than those little tricks were the word pads that any junior editor red pencils reflexively and without thinking. Things like, “So then …” and “Because of this, ” and “totally”, “really”, “just.”

So what?

Sorry, I got a little distracted padding my word count. The point is that I’m gearing up to write a post for my writers’ group’s bog and the phrase, “moving forward” came to mind.

It’s a phrase that is often used in badly written business speeches and reports and company pep talks.

“And so, moving forward, we will endeavor to do our very best.”

There’s nothing

There isn’t a single word in that statement that needs to be.

“Moving forward” is the only way we move, so scratch that. And who is going to suggest that we do less than our very best? It’s a given. That leaves “And so” to stand alone, and it meant nothing in the statement so it doesn’t need to be stated anyway.

But …

Moving forward is the only way we move. And I think we need to pay attention to that.

I often hear descriptions from lots of people about the negative effects of their ADHD symptoms. (You knew I’d get around to ADHD, right? Right?) And I think to myself that the worst thing we can do is pause and ponder these things.

Unless we’re going to learn from them, I don’t even want to dwell on them.

I’m a problem solver

Just about every job I’ve ever had that I was even moderately successful at was as a problem solver. Computer programming, IT specialist, odd job facilitator, contractor’s assistant, computer technician.

Problems? Solved!

So maybe

Maybe this is my way of approaching my symptoms and their manifestations.

I know I’m going to forget things. So I put laundry baskets in the hall when I can’t put the clothes away at right this minute. I leave things I need to take with me, grocery bags, overdue library books, my pants, in front of the door so I can’t leave the house without them.

And I tell people what I need to do, I make myself accountable. They may never check on me. They might not even care. But I know they know and that makes me obligated.

And I know

I am well aware that I am way behind in life. My ADHD is partly to blame, and my not being aware of it until I was 50 also plays a big part in my being nowhere near where I should be professionally or financially or whatever.

But, I only get to do this once.

As Yoda might say …

“Moving forward, I am still.”

That is, I’m not losing ground, I am late but I’m going the right direction.

And if you’re looking to me for advice, this is it right here:

You should be moving forward.

Moving Forward


Kelly Babcock

I was born in the city of Toronto in 1959, but moved when I was in my fourth year of life. I was raised and educated in a rural setting, growing up in a manner I like to refer to as free range. I live in an area where my family history stretches back 6 or more generations. I was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 50 and have been both struggling with the new reality and using my discoveries to make my life better. I write two blogs here at Psych Central, one about having ADHD and one that is a daily positive affirmation that acts as an example of finding the good in as much of my life as I possibly can.

Find out more about me on my website: writeofway.

email me at ADHD Man


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APA Reference
Babcock, K. (2019). Moving Forward. Psych Central. Retrieved on December 11, 2019, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/adhd-man/2019/11/moving-forward/

 

Last updated: 18 Nov 2019
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