There are some things about ADHD that seem to be true.
Or at least, they seem to be the norm for this abnormal way we are.
Some of them also carry in them the caveat that stabilizes them.
For instance, people with ADHD are more likely to visit an emergency room than people without the disorder. The words “more likely” are the caveat that makes this a truth, we won’t all go to the emergency room every day or every year even, we’re just more likely to.
So what are the laws?
The laws are things that can be said about people with ADHD that are pretty hard to refute.
We do not like to fill out forms, some of us get physically ill when faced with the prospect.
We do not like standing in lines, waiting at lights, being held back from doing anything.
We do not like being interrupted when we’re hyper-focused on something, we do not transition well.
That’s just a few …
I could spend a few days compiling a list of things that we know are common.
But there’s a problem with this list, this short one and any longer one.
And this problem is the reason these laws are unwritten … well, other than here.
The laws are unwritten because …
These laws don’t apply to every one of us.
No, that’s not quite right either. No single law in this list applies to every one of us.
We hate sitting in meetings … mostly.
We hate cleaning and organizing … mostly
I could go on
The thing is that these laws are a lot like the stats. They are unwritten because you can’t apply them to every one of us.
You can say we are more likely to hate grocery shopping, but I happen to enjoy that.
You can say that we are more likely to work in a disorganized space, but Nancy Ratey keeps her work space wonderfully organized.
You can say that we are less likely to enjoy filling out forms, but I’ll bet that there is someone out there who gets some sense of satisfaction from it and has ADHD.
So these laws …
They probably should be listed some where. We maybe should be documenting them.
But we need to word it so that no one who potentially is diagnosable would read them and say, “I can’t have ADHD, I love it when someone interrupts me during video game play.”
Because they just aren’t all going to apply to all of us.