On Wednesday I wrote about a scenario where we get ourselves into trouble by taking on jobs that seem like they are doable with our personal skill sets, not ADHD skill sets but your individual skill sets, or mine.
Well, in truth, we take on those jobs without assessing skill requirements because we want to get on to the thing we want to do, whatever that might be.
We get excited for some task that seems like what we would like to do and then we start accepting responsibilities we maybe shouldn’t, either ones we can’t deal with or just way too many for us to manage.
When we get excited, we get hyper active. Or at least those of us who have the vitamin H component of ADHD do. And that’s when that trouble starts.
But today …
Today I’m going to move us forward on the time line.
Somehow we’ve gotten through the task or tasks that we shouldn’t have volunteered to do.
We’ve gotten to the part that excited us in the first place. We’ve made it to the promised land. We’re starting the job that made us pay attention to the whole project.
And life is good!
Yes, life is good. For most of my life, those words have scared me. Whenever life is good I feel like there’s a large hammer hanging over me, ready to drop.
I have, over time, realized that like a road through the mountains, sometimes above grade and sometimes below grade. They build them that way, blasting holes through the mountains and using the rubble to fill in the valleys. It levels out the road, but gives the impression that sometimes you’re flying high and sometimes you’re underground.
So, you got the job
Yes! The task you wanted was handed to you. And you’re excited. Hey, I’m excited for you.
But there are pitfalls, you knew that, right?
Yeah, you knew that, but you couldn’t think what they might be. You were looking at the job and couldn’t see any problem you might encounter.
They’re not in the job
The pitfalls are a part of you. They are your ADHD. I’m not saying you can’t succeed, but I am saying you need to understand what’s going to happen.
First, it’s easy to think that, because the job is fun and exciting that you can do it without any effort. That results in you not putting any effort in and nothing getting done. The problem is that you feel good because it’s your job, you got it, and you don’t realize that having the job and doing the job aren’t the same thing.
That’s not all …
Next, we often see things in broad strokes. In programming when we flow-charted a computer program we had to be very careful that we didn’t miss things. Stuff that magically appeared in a flow chart would somehow have to be created in the actual program and often the coding for that would take hours that hadn’t been planned on.
Additionally, and harder to picture were things that we created and then just left there and didn’t dispose of. Sometimes they didn’t mater, and sometimes they corrupted other things on us.
We called these two types of problems miracles and black holes, and they chewed up time like it was breakfast cereal.
The job you wanted?
I want you to get that. Don’t get me wrong.
But first I want you to get to it without ending up having to do something you shouldn’t be doing, thus the blog of Wednesday past.
And then I want you to enjoy doing that job you wanted, not just enjoy having it until the deadline bites you in the nether regions.
I want you to succeed as much as you want to be successful.
Because that means we’re getting better at this thing called ADHD.