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One Life To Live

love yourself
You deserve it!

I’m all for reincarnation. Bring it on!

And maybe we have it already, I don’t know.

Sometimes I feel like I’ve been someplace, done something, heard something before. And at the same time that my mind is saying, “This seems awfully familiar …”, it’s also  saying, “Nope, never happened, I have no record of any opportunity for this to have happened before.”

That’s called déjà vu, and it happens again and again and again …

But …

No one can prove that the feeling of remembering something you haven’t experienced before is a past life thing, or triggered by memories of previously unremembered dreams, or possibly your brain having already considered what this would be like and then flashed back to the present and thought, yes, it is exactly like this.

Past life? Maybe, maybe not.

The truth is

Whether or not we are reincarnated, the isolation of our conscious mind to this life means that we might as well accept that we only get one life. We don’t recall enough of a past life to be able to use it much, and we can’t access future ones at this point either.

So I say, live as if you have just this one life, even if you do believe in reincarnation.

And that means live the best life you can, despite the ADHD. Live the best life you can … with ADHD. ‘Cause you don’t get any other option.

Do what makes you happy

I’m not saying blow off work and live on the road.

Well … maybe, if you can survive that way and if it makes you happy to do that, okay.

But listen

I am saying you should remember that you can’t make everyone happy. If they can’t make you happy all the time, how could you do any better for them?

Happiness is something you do for yourself, not something that someone else does for you.


Revel in the things that you enjoy doing. Accept that you have flaws. Remember, so does everyone else.

Find the love of your life and dedicate yourself to that love, no matter who or what it is.

Accept that people are going to judge you, they likely can’t help it, that doesn’t mean that you should judge them.

And it doesn’t mean that you should judge yourself, you are who you are and though you can maybe change the future, you can’t change the past.

Be the person you try to project to the world. We all wear masks, but if you think about it, that mask is your ideal, work towards that.

And lastly …

Focus on this life as much as you can. As much as I’d like to help you with this life, I really can’t live it for you.

But you can. Help yourself, be yourself, talk, laugh, screw up and apologize, do it all.

And love yourself

Love yourself in spite of yourself, and because of yourself, whatever it takes to feel good about you.

‘Cause I’m pretty sure you just get this one shot at it.

And you are a broken, perfect, flawed, shiny, wonderful, awful, awe filled, powerful, trembling thing … worthy of your own love.


One Life To Live

Kelly Babcock

I was born in the city of Toronto in 1959, but moved when I was in my fourth year of life. I was raised and educated in a rural setting, growing up in a manner I like to refer to as free range. I live in an area where my family history stretches back 6 or more generations. I was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 50 and have been both struggling with the new reality and using my discoveries to make my life better. I write two blogs here at Psych Central, one about having ADHD and one that is a daily positive affirmation that acts as an example of finding the good in as much of my life as I possibly can.

Find out more about me on my website: writeofway.

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Babcock, K. (2019). One Life To Live. Psych Central. Retrieved on January 22, 2020, from


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