Stuff is boring. In my life, there’s lots of boring things. It gets old pretty quick.
And as we all know, boredom is poison for us peeps with ADHD.
But not everything is poison. Not everything is boring. Not everything drives me to distraction.
And sometimes the things that could bore me, should bore me, would bore me under other circumstances … don’t.
How’s that work?
Dull and boring can be the thing that kills my day.
But, if something is presented to me suddenly, with drama, a hint of mystery, I’m hooked.
“What would happen to your day if you finished the laundry? Actually finished it. Folded … put away … that kind of finished … ?”
Wow! I don’t know!!!
I’m not embarrassed to say that I am that easily fooled, I am.
Also, I’ve fooled my self like that at times.
With all the conversations that play in my head, it’s not difficult to have one of the characters I play be the devils advocate.
“Playing the part of Kelly’s life coach today will be Kelly himself.”
Of course …
There are characters in my mind saying things like, “Ya, but you’re just trying to fool yourself into thinking …”
But I can always count on my ADHD mind to fashion other characters that will say, “Shhh! Let’s see what happens.”
I hang with a great crowd, inside my head. Diversity is the spice of life and this crowd is diverse.
In fact, if I can get them on board, nothing is too dull to tackle, so long as there’s surprise and drama.
And luckily the inside of my head is full of surprise and drama.
So how can you help?
If you know someone like me and you want to help them focus when they’re having trouble, there are a few things you can do.
One great thing is to start a conversation about the thing they’re having trouble maintaining focus on.
There’s a great chance that the lack of focus is because they’re bored and the boredom is because there’s nothing new to learn.
So the convo?
Learning and teaching are mirror images of each other, if you ask me about the thing, I’m going to go way over the top explaining it to you.
If you listen, you’ll learn more details about what ever it is I’m supposed to be doing than you’d ever want to know.
If you listen …
And if you make observations, that’s going to help as well.
In fact, they may trigger more thought on our part, and we may find there was more to the thing than we already knew.
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If you engage us about the thing we’re having trouble focusing on, we’ll engage on it too.
You don’t need to keep up, you likely don’t even need to stick around.
Basically we’re like toys, wind us up and watch us go.
Toys … well, toys that do things … when we’re focused.