I was out for dinner with some friends last night, and in fairness, none of these people have known me for more than six years, and I mentioned that, among other things, I had been an auctioneer at one time.
I demonstrated my skill and they were suitably impressed, I guess, and the conversation continued around this new topic for a few minutes and then someone said …
“So, when we think you’re normally talking fast, you’re actually slowing it down for us?”
I had never really thought about it before, mostly because I wasn’t aware that I was talking that fast. I mean, sure, I knew I talked faster than most people, but I wasn’t aware that it was so noticeable that it could be referenced in conversation as if it were a given.
So yes, I talk fast in everyday, casual conversation, and yes, I knew that.
But no, I didn’t know it was so significant.
Got me thinking
So this got me thinking this morning, and I posed a question in an online group of people with ADHD that referenced us talking fast as if it were a known thing.
I said, “Hey, do we talk fast because that’s the speed our brains are going? Or is it because we don’t want anyone else to get a word in because they’ll derail our train of thought and we’ll get distracted?”
And, although I added, “Obviously I’m only talking to those of you who talk fast, not you three who don’t.” … no one denied that we talk fast.
Now, I don’t know …
Do we all talk fast? I mean, sure, there’s a spectrum to this like there is to everything that has anything to do with ADHD, but do we all talk fast? Do we all talk faster than we would if we didn’t have ADHD?
That is to say, if you leveled up our cerebral development to the same steady and more typical pace and extent of the neuro-typicals, would we not talk as fast then?
Why do we talk so fast, those of us who do?
Is it ADHD? Is it that we’re afraid we’ll forget what we started to say? Or is it that we don’t want to leave room for interruptions or we will be distracted from what we are saying. Or is it both of those things?
Does it develop as a defense mechanism to keep us on conversational track, even though the conversational track may not be where we’re supposed to be?
Like being diagnosed …
Like being diagnosed when I was fifty, but in a smaller way, I’m dealing with trying to figure something out at the same time that I’m dealing with becoming aware of it.
And I’m not completely certain that I have my head wrapped around it yet.
But I can guarantee you this much, it’s something I’ll be talking about for a good long … fast … while.