There are so many problems that come with having ADHD.
And quite frankly, there are damned few benefits.
There are, it is true, ways of looking at this disorder that allow us to maximize our differences and those maximizations do benefit us, but there are really and truly very few pure benefits to having ADHD.
Okay, it’s true that there is hyper-focus, but it is not controllable and it often directs our attention away from what we need to be focusing on.
There’s a reason that the real name of hyper-focus is perseverance, it can be a nuisance and even a deficit. A benefit? No.
There is problem solving, that outside the box thing that we do, where we find solutions before others do because we look beyond the limits of the situation. But sometimes we solve problems in such a way that we create bigger problems and have to go back and try a different approach.
And sometimes we go thinking outside the box, trying elaborate ways to make something go and just as we start designing a new portable sized nuclear fusion generator to power our solution, some NT reaches out around the side of the problem and throws the switch to on.
Yes, I know, there’s still empathy. As I said yesterday, empathy seems to run rampant among us.
But while it helps us understand others, it doesn’t help us understand ourselves much. And in all honesty empathy is painful and difficult for me. I sometimes need to hide away alone in my head.
I took my father to the hospital for a cat scan. I drove an hour and a half to go get him and bring him to the hospital, waited an hour and a half for the scan to complete, and drove an hour and a half to take him and then myself home again.
I stopped along the way to check on a property I look after, and by the time I got home and set up here in front of my computer I was at a loss for something to write about.
I loaded up my editor and checked to see if there were any drafts that I’d started and abandoned due to my forgetfulness. And there was a promising looking one listed with the alluring title of, “I’ve Got Nothing To Say” and I thought, “Ah-ha! Here’s my ticket!”
So I opened it up … and it was empty.
My smart-assed self had left it there for me to find, I assume.
The last laugh!
But the joke’s on former me, because I got a blog post out of it, a post about how ADHD gives me a rather warped and most enjoyable sense of humor.
And even if I’m the only one who laughs about it, I’m the one that has all those negatives to deal with.
And as an added bonus … I’ve published the draft too, so today is a two post day, though the first one is pretty short.
And that’s funny stuff, if you ask me.