Stop. Don’t do another thing until I tell you this.
If you have ADHD you need to know something.
You’re liable to get distracted. And you’re liable to be annoyed by that.
But not as annoyed as you’ll be when someone else tries to stop you from doing something you’re concentrating on.
It’s not natural!
When I’m focused on something and concentrating deeply on it, that’s a big deal. I’m paying attention. And believe it or not, that is a good and welcome feeling.
Distractions are not welcome. In fact, they are upsetting. They often cause me to be unable to work on what I was doing or to pay attention to the distraction.
And it isn’t that I suddenly can’t pay attention so much as it is the rant that is going on in my head that I cannot turn down is drowning out my concentration.
The right stuff
And it matters that what was interrupted was something I was supposed to be doing, was the right thing for me to be doing. That will make my displeasure even greater.
I mean, hey! I was doing what I was supposed to be doing, wasn’t I? How often does that happen? And you interrupted me?
Now, I’m older. I’ve had a lot of experience. And I’ve learned a lot.
But I haven’t learned how to deal well with being distracted from my focus.
So what have I learned?
I’ve learned that this is going to happen, going to keep happening.
And I’ve learned to recognize when it does happen, to be prepared for the reaction I’m going to have, and to maybe tone down the effect it has on me and my behavior.
I’m still upset when it happens, but I feel like I deal with it better.
Hardly. It’s taken me sixty years to get here.
And I had some help along the way by being raised by people who understood the way I was wired.
Admittedly, we were not aware of ADHD or the vast quantity of information that is now available.
If you are younger, and have just been diagnosed, then you’re ahead of me in this. You can listen to me telling you that when people distract you, interrupt you, they don’t necessarily know how that’s going to affect you.
They don’t know the jarring disruption they’re causing. They can’t hear the rant that’s going on in your head (if you’re able to refrain from vocalizing it).
But now …