… Sees the child in you.
Wait, no. I wasn’t calling you a child.
I was talking about how I get along well with children.
Well, maybe I was calling you a child.
Let’s explore this …
I get along well with children because, although I spent my childhood wanting desperately to be an adult, it was the best part of my life.
And I remember it well enough to know that children don’t like to feel like you think you’re better than they are.
If you have ADHD, you have that same thing. The Neuro-Typicals (NTs) can sometimes make you feel like they think you’re not up to their standard. Mostly they do this by trying to convince you that all you need to do is stop being ADHD and you’ll no longer be ADHD.
And we know that’s not true.
But we know that they can’t quite grasp that they could be wrong.
ADHD is …
ADHD is a developmental thing, our frontal lobe doesn’t develop the way it does in NTs.
And in some ways that’s a good thing.
But the point is, the lack of full development makes us closer to children than other people are. Closer in development, and closer in understanding them.
I’m fully aware that dictating, harping, demanding, preaching and judging will not help any child progress or grow, any more than those things would help us.
In fact, those things will do more harm than good in any circumstance.
And we’re the ones with a problem?
I know, right?
So how do I get along with children? I give them what I want. Respect and equality when I’m talking to them.
Sure they’re life experiences aren’t as extensive as mine. And it’s true that they haven’t had the opportunity to learn as much as I have.
But they will if they’re encouraged. And someday they’ll be our peers and they’ll remember who treated them as people and who treated them as deficient.
What do I like?
I like to be challenged. I like to be left to accomplish things that might be just beyond my grasp with the tools I have at hand.
And when I need help and can ask for it from someone who isn’t disrespecting me, I feel like I’m succeeding.
And when I manage to figure things out on my own and prove my worth, then I feel valuable.
Think about it. That positive kind of experience is exactly what helps them grow and learn and become adults … with or without ADHD.