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Please Restrain Me

Let’s not get the wrong ideas now …

That sounds a little risque, doesn’t it?

Well, I’m not trying to be risque, but the truth is that that fits in, in a meta sort of way, with today’s subject, impulsivity.

You see, the hyperactivity and impulsivity of ADHD are technically the result of poor, reduced, or non-existent  inhibition.

And like so many things, inhibition is both good and bad, depending on the person and the circumstance.

Inhibition is …

Inhibition is something that restrains, blocks, or suppresses. That’s the definitive answer to the question of what is it.

But like stress, some inhibition is a good thing, too little or too much is not so good.

And we?

We have been deemed to have too little. It’s all part and parcel of that whole needing instant gratification. It’s what tires those of us who are always trying to be on top of our behaviors.

And we can’t really help it. I mean, yes, I can “help” being impulsive most of the time, well, some of the time. But I cannot do that naturally. I grow weary of the required energy that it takes.

And when I’m tired, I’m more impulsive.

It reminds me of school

No, being impulsive doesn’t remind me of school, trying to be in control does. And more than just because I was always trying to keep on top of my behavior in school.

The other part of school was that those to whom I was required to be accountable to for my actions had no clue about what would help me.

If my behavior was unacceptable my punishments were often the exact thing that would make my behavior worse.

For instance …

If I was unable to complete school work in class time, I might be required to sacrifice my recess in order to finish up. The segregation and the loss of my time to avail myself of the opportunity to let out my impulsiveness in a physical and acceptable way would mean that after recess, my lessons would not be handled any better than before recess, and undoubtedly they would suffer more.

So, when I say, “please restrain me.” I’m not suggesting that anyone should attempt to try to inhibit my behavior.

In fact, I’m being quite facetious.

You will not help!

You might think you’re helping me, but in fact, you’re just making things worse.

If you really want to help, come up with a plan for making recess happen sooner.

Hey, this is like another ADHD dichotomy, the best way to restrain me is … to let me have the freedom to burn off my impulsiveness.

I’m good with that. Go ahead. Restrain me … that way.

Please Restrain Me

Kelly Babcock

I was born in the city of Toronto in 1959, but moved when I was in my fourth year of life. I was raised and educated in a rural setting, growing up in a manner I like to refer to as free range. I live on the traditional lands of the Chippewas of Nawash in an area where my family history stretches back 6 or 7 generations and my First Nations friend's families go back hundreds of generations. I was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 50 and have been both struggling with the new reality and using my discoveries to make my life better. I am a freelance writer and I write two blogs here at Psych Central, one about living with ADHD and one that is a daily positive affirmation that acts as an example of finding the good in as much of my life as I possibly can.

Find out more about me on my website: writeofway.

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Babcock, K. (2019). Please Restrain Me. Psych Central. Retrieved on November 27, 2020, from


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