I don’t have the same ADHD that you have. No one does. Your ADHD is unique to you.
Wait, that’s not an insult.
It’s sad, but it’s true.
It’s true of all of us, each and every one of us.
When the human brain develops, even when it develops in a way that one might refer to as normal, it is uniquely different from any other brain.
And so too are ours. And the way that ADHD interacts with our differences will always result in unique manifestations of both ourselves and the disorder.
But beyond that …
The fact that ADHD is a different development from the so called norm (many say a lack or arresting of the normal development) that development that results in ADHD is also never the same from one of us to the next.
How many potential possible outcomes are there?
Good question …
Consider a die being tossed, the standard die is a cube with six sides, each one numbered from one to six. There are six possibilities.
But the genetic outcome that results in a person is not a cubed die being tossed. There are so many possible variables that we are fairly certain that there are no two people who are identical in this world with the possible exception of identical twins at birth.
Now contemplate this …
If you throw a pair of dice, one has six possible outcomes and so does the other. The sum of those sides is twelve.
That seems straight forward, but in actuality, there are 36 possible outcomes. If one of the pair is blue and the other is red, then there are six potential outcomes of the red die for each of the six potential outcomes of the blue one.
Blue one – red one, blue one – red two, blue one – red three, etc …
Now add this …
The possible manifestations of ADHD are as infinite as the possible manifestations of humanity.
If the possible outcomes of a pair of dice is the product, rather than the sum of their individual possible outcomes then the possible outcome of a person with ADHD is infinite possible people outcomes times infinite possible manifestations of ADHD.
You, my friend, have no chance of finding someone who is the same as you.
But fortunately, we only need to find people who understand what it is like to be unique in order to find our people.
And while I am not you, not the same as you, I understand.
Even the things I don’t really have to deal with, I understand.
Most of our issues originate from symptoms we share, though we experience them to varying degrees.
And so, the thing we have in common that counts is that we recognize the issues we experience in each other.
So yeah, I’m not you … but, I get you.