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Forget What I Said Before

ADHD life expectancy is less than normal
… and that’s not good

What did I tell you? Well forget it.

Wait, don’t forget all of it. Be selective. Lots of things I told you are still valid.

But here’s something I’ve mentioned before that I’ve changed my mind on.


I have, on maybe more than one occasion, said that if someone doesn’t know they have ADHD and you’re pretty sure they have it, it’s none of your business to tell them.

I still feel like it would be a hard thing to do, and a tough thing for them to find out.

We’re talking “life altering stuff” here. At least, it was for me. It was emotional and it was huge and there was a sense of loss at the same time as the feeling of sudden and somewhat overwhelming understanding.

And …

While I wouldn’t wish those feelings on anyone if they weren’t necessary, there are circumstances where they’re necessary.

If the person in question was struggling with life, having trouble with organization and focus and impulsivity and all the other wonderful aspects of ADHD, than it was necessary.

But, I’ve also said that if they seem to have figured it out, leave them be, keep your mouth shut.

Seriously, why add to their burden when they have managed to get that burden under control already.

Why? Because!

Suddenly, in light of Dr. Barkley’s disclosure that our life expectancy is reduced if we have ADHD, I feel compelled to tell people who may have ADHD that they might want to look into it.

For one thing, more information is coming our way about what things are shortening our life expectancy. And that may help us live longer, it may possibly help us beat these new odds.

And while I hate to be the bearer of bad news, I also have very strict rules about letting people struggle with things when I could help them get an advantage.

There will be many

Many people with ADHD, even after finding out that their hearts are at risk, will still have trouble adhering to a healthier life style.

Hell, I’m not adhering well myself and this has scared the bejeebers out of me.

But even if I can’t adhere well, I have still made some changes. And though they may be intermittent changes that are hit and miss from one day to the next, they are ongoing and possibly ramping up to real change.

I’m trying

Listen, I found out about my ADHD when I was 50. I’ve made changes in my life that have made my life so much better, so much more enjoyable.

I’ve reinvented my ideas of success. I’ve reworked my plans for enjoying life. I’ve accepted limits and found ways to work around them, ways I wouldn’t have considered before when I was trying to bull my way through life.

And now? Now that things are better for me I find out life is shorter than it was supposed to be?

Nope. That’s not on. This is just one more problem that needs my attention. And I’m not going to let this happen to others either.

Forget What I Said Before

Kelly Babcock

I was born in the city of Toronto in 1959, but moved when I was in my fourth year of life. I was raised and educated in a rural setting, growing up in a manner I like to refer to as free range. I live on the traditional lands of the Chippewas of Nawash in an area where my family history stretches back 6 or 7 generations and my First Nations friend's families go back hundreds of generations. I was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 50 and have been both struggling with the new reality and using my discoveries to make my life better. I am a freelance writer and I write two blogs here at Psych Central, one about living with ADHD and one that is a daily positive affirmation that acts as an example of finding the good in as much of my life as I possibly can.

Find out more about me on my website: writeofway.

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Babcock, K. (2019). Forget What I Said Before. Psych Central. Retrieved on November 27, 2020, from


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