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Pants? Check!

Me ... with pants
I like when I’m dressed

Life is unpredictable. And so are we.

Doesn’t that seem like a perfect match?

No?

If you’re here, you likely have ADHD, or you care about someone who does.

And that means …

That means you’re looking for help or comfort. I’m okay with that.

I can pass on what I’ve found to work for me, and I can tell you how my life works so that if you see correlations between my life and yours you might feel less alone.

I love when that “less alone” thing happens because when I hear about it, it also makes me feel less alone.

And then there’s this …

Sometimes my mind goes wandering out into deep water and dives in search of understanding. And when that happens, I sometimes realize truths that I feel need sharing.

It’s true that sometimes I share these truths with people and they’re all like, “You just figured that out now?”

But sometimes these things are pretty far out, and yet, pretty obvious.

It’s like gravity

None of us notice gravity much, but we all know it’s there, we all experience it, account for it, get in trouble because of it in our day to day lives.

And yet, there it is, weighing us down, keeping us from soaring with the birds.

Some years ago …

Three years ago, to be exact, I posted the following in an ADHD group,

“Ran the dishwasher, wrote an article on ADHD, submitted two poems to an anthology, reread and edited 16 chapters of my novel in progress … let’s see, oh yeah, forgot to change out of my jammies. Guess I’m ready for bed, eh?”

“Ran the dishwasher, wrote an article on ADHD, submitted two poems to an anthology, reread and edited 16 chapters of my novel in progress … let’s see, oh yeah, forgot to change out of my jammies. Guess I’m ready for bed, eh?”

It was funny, I had gotten a great deal of things done and then discovered I hadn’t ever gotten dressed for the day.

But …

Today when I read that (and no, I don’t remember what I was doing when I found this, possibly looking for inspiration?) I realized this was around the time when I was beginning to accept my ADHD world and life as permanent.

And then I had an epiphany, one I’ve had before, but one that always strikes me as new, one that feels like I’m looking at a beautiful and familiar view from a different vantage.

Epiphany?

Acceptance of my past is the best way to move toward the future.

Whether I care that I didn’t get dressed or not will not change that fact. And the sooner I accept that, the sooner I can accept that it doesn’t matter.

So listen …

I’m sitting in my Wednesday office, a cafĂ© in a small town in my area. I am fully dressed.

And I don’t remember that day three years ago, don’t remember what happened and cannot relate anything more than what I wrote about it.

So, if I can’t remember it, and my day today is okay, and I don’t remember any ill effects, why worry about it?

And when something else happens?

When something else like that happens, I’m prepared to let it ride like I did that.

See, I don’t yet know if my life will be affected negatively by forgetting to put on pants, but I do know that if I’m fretting about it I’m not going to be ready to fix my situation in a timely manner.

And I’m also not prepared to waste any of my time worrying about it.

But I am wearing pants today … so that’s good.

Pants? Check!

Kelly Babcock

I was born in the city of Toronto in 1959, but moved when I was in my fourth year of life. I was raised and educated in a rural setting, growing up in a manner I like to refer to as free range. I live in an area where my family history stretches back 6 or more generations. I was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 50 and have been both struggling with the new reality and using my discoveries to make my life better. I write two blogs here at Psych Central, one about having ADHD and one that is a daily positive affirmation that acts as an example of finding the good in as much of my life as I possibly can.

Find out more about me on my website: writeofway.

email me at ADHD Man


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APA Reference
Babcock, K. (2019). Pants? Check!. Psych Central. Retrieved on April 20, 2019, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/adhd-man/2019/02/pants-check/

 

Last updated: 6 Feb 2019
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