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Not My Choice

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You get no choice …

There’s a lot of trouble out there in this big old world, trouble surrounding ADHD.

And the bulk of that trouble seems to center on people who have declared that they know that ADHD isn’t real.

Oddly, there are people who believe this, who at the same time have ADHD.

I mean, it’s true that everyone experiences the symptoms that plague our lives, but there are people who disbelieve and at the same time experience these symptoms to a degree that indicates they could use help dealing with them.

They don’t get to choose …

… whether they have ADHD or not. That get to choose whether to accept or deny, but that choice won’t change their brain, it will only change their life.

And some of the problem for the deniers is that they don’t actually know what ADHD is.

What is ADHD?

Great question!

ADHD is a lack of choice. For instance, we can focus on some things and we can ignore some things, but we can’t usually choose which things will be in which group. We can guess what will keep our attention, we can even learn what will hold our attention, but we can’t make it not so.

And we can guess what will not. We know that if there is a stack of papers that are all similar but each one is slightly different and we need to determine something about each individual page and the determinant isn’t likely to be in the same spot on each page that we are going to end up leaving that pile of papers and riding our bikes to the store for candy.

Well, maybe not riding bikes or buying candy, but we’ll end up focused on something more … attractive.

We can’t tell

It’s hard for us to know at the beginning of the day whether or not we’ll be having a focused day or not.

We can augment with medication, that often will help many of us to be able to keep on the ball, but there will still be variations of ability from day to day and we don’t get a choice in that either.

And some of us can’t choose medication. I can’t at this point.

But we do get one choice

It doesn’t matter what people say about their phony, snake oil cures for ADHD.

It doesn’t matter what ridiculousness they spout about what causes ADHD.

And it sure as hell doesn’t matter if they claim that ADHD does not exist.

It doesn’t matter in the slightest!

I don’t get to choose whether I have ADHD.

But I do get to choose to live my life with ADHD.

And I get to choose to do it well.

And I do so choose. Do you?

Not My Choice

Kelly Babcock

I was born in the city of Toronto in 1959, but moved when I was in my fourth year of life. I was raised and educated in a rural setting, growing up in a manner I like to refer to as free range. I live in an area where my family history stretches back 6 or more generations. I was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 50 and have been both struggling with the new reality and using my discoveries to make my life better. I write two blogs here at Psych Central, one about having ADHD and one that is a daily positive affirmation that acts as an example of finding the good in as much of my life as I possibly can.

Find out more about me on my website: writeofway.

email me at ADHD Man

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Babcock, K. (2019). Not My Choice. Psych Central. Retrieved on June 1, 2020, from


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