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Looking At Now

Look, it’s that time

I’ve discovered the secret to a happy life. It’s all about perspective.

I’ve wasted so much time looking forward at what I think I need to do.

And I’ve spent way too much time looking back on past mistakes and situations where I was trying to deal with a known world and couldn’t figure out that the greatest unknown was me.

I’ve looked to the future with dread, and to the past with regret.

And I’m done!

From now on I’m looking at the present and I’m looking specifically at what is good about it.

And I’m going to take what is good about the present and try to hold on to that, and generate more of it as I go through this life.

Life should neither be regretted nor feared.

I’m not saying …

There is no use in trying to avoid responsibility for what I’ve done in my life, but there is also no use in wasting more time feeling bad about it.

So I’m not saying I’m just going to forget about everything I’ve been responsible for, it is an integral part of the educational material from which I learn to cope.

And I know …

Heading into the future with dread is as useful as carrying water in a cloth bag, it won’t get anywhere.

The likelihood that my worries over what is to come will help me in any way is so close to nil as to be nil itself.

And the time wasted doing that is time that could have been spent doing so many other things.

Things like?

Things like enjoying my life, being content, being helpful, keeping my eyes open for adventure.

I’ve been doing these very things for a while now and they have gotten me to a point in my life where I am good with it, I’m happy.

Do the math

You get one life, as far as I know, and even if you get more than one, logic tells us that this is the only one you get to enjoy right now.

If you spend even a quarter of your time lamenting the past or worrying over the future, that’s between twenty and thirty years if you live to a decent age.

And that’s twenty to thirty years wasted.

And another thing …

The stress caused by spending those years in dread and regret will be enough to shorten the other years of your life. That’s called compound interest, and it’s only interesting if you don’t mind the diminishing returns of healthy life.

So do yourself a favor, accept the past and let it look after itself.

And accept the future as well, you may have influence on it, but if you’re worrying about it that influence may well be quite negative.

And as un-Zen as I might be, I’m still going to say it … try to be present in your life, at least long enough to find comfort and contentment in the way it is right now.

You got this!

Looking At Now

Kelly Babcock

I was born in the city of Toronto in 1959, but moved when I was in my fourth year of life. I was raised and educated in a rural setting, growing up in a manner I like to refer to as free range. I live in an area where my family history stretches back 6 or more generations. I was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 50 and have been both struggling with the new reality and using my discoveries to make my life better. I write two blogs here at Psych Central, one about having ADHD and one that is a daily positive affirmation that acts as an example of finding the good in as much of my life as I possibly can.

Find out more about me on my website: writeofway.

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Babcock, K. (2019). Looking At Now. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 31, 2020, from


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