Hey, you! Do you have ADHD? You do? How tidy are you?
Me? Not so much.
I work hard enough at it and I’m moderately successful at it, but I’m not great. In fact, I wouldn’t even try to claim that I’m good at it.
I do tidy, but I don’t do tidy well.
Like so many things
Disorganization is a way of life for many of us. Not all of us, but many of us.
Some of us have developed the coping method of having everything in exactly the right place all the time.
It helps them get through life, and tidying is one of the things they hyperfocus on, even when there are other things to be done. And occasionally that leads to the misdiagnosis of OCD for some of us.
But the organized ADHDers are few
For most who have ADHD, being organized is not the norm.
Part of the reason for that is the amount of stuff we have. Because we suffer poor executive function we often see possible situations that might make things useful, but they are situations that will likely never happen.
Because of this short coming we are occasionally misdiagnosed as chronic hoarders.
There is a show
Currently running on Netflix is a show called Tidying Upâ„˘ that suggests that you should only keep those things that “spark joy” in your life.
But for us, the concept of joy in our lives is hard to define. I swear I have a broken pipe that my mother gave me. Contemplating throwing it out, since I do not smoke a pipe any more and since it is broken anyway, seems the logical thing to do.
Additionally, my mother died of lung cancer, and I’m pretty sure she would not care about me throwing out something that is associated with causing that kind of trauma.
And yet …
If joy is the opposite of sadness or remorse, then what harm does it do in the joy department to keep something my mother gave me?
At this moment, I have no idea where that pipe is, in a box somewhere in the garage or the office closet or someplace like that, I’m sure … maybe. But the point it that I can find a joy sparking in so many things because I have trained myself to do that.
I have spent a lifetime looking for the good in a life that might easily be found to be filled with bad things.
And it is full of dichotomies and paradoxes.
And one of those is that I can find joy in the clutter that haunts me.
But I am slowly cleaning up. And I think I’m going to modify that whole sparking joy thing.
I think I’m going to try to find the spark of joy, the electric ecstasy in getting rid of things.
And if I find it, I think I’ll throw out that pipe.