Yeah, I know. It isn’t New Year’s yet. But it will be 2019 by the time I publish here again.
So let’s call this the New Year’s post.
I have some things to say, and they seem important to me.
It really is all about you. But in a subdued way.
I’m not telling you to ignore others, deny their needs or wants. That’s a recipe for ending up alone.
But when it comes to your ADHD, it is yours, and as such, it’s no one else’s business unless you choose to share with them.
So stand up for yourself!
You need support that others don’t need. But don’t feel bad about that, because you also bring life and excitement to group dynamics that others can’t even hope to offer.
Realize, in this coming year, that groups of people are not dynamic if everyone is similar. And if you find yourself in such a group and they are trying to get you to conform, you have to choose between making them realize they’re wrong to do that, or leaving for a different group.
Don’t judge groups from the outside …
When you find yourself being drawn to a group, just let that happen. You need to experience the group with you in it to know if it is what you need.
And remember to engage in more than one group. Participate in different things. Your experiences in one group will help you interact in others.
And then there’s the group of one
None of us want to be alone all the time. Or at least we shouldn’t. That’s how we end up in addiction trouble.
But we do need alone time, whether we recognize that or not.
Even if we don’t think we need to spend time alone, think of it as time spent assessing our past group interactions.
We may well learn something from experiences in one group that might help us make more of our experiences in other groups.
See? Alone time is really just part of social interaction, it’s the maintenance part.
Be adventurous, but
Check in with reality every now and again when you’re being your usual adventurous self.
And from a page in my own personal journal, plan some adventures rather than just relying on spontaneous opportunities. There is a world of excitement to be experienced from planning something and then actually experiencing it.
There’s a whole year up ahead. And there’s a whole world out there to spend it in.
And there are billions of people on this planet now. BILLIONS!
There are friends to meet, some for the first time. Things to do, some old favorites and some favorites that have yet to be discovered.
Don’t waste any part of this next twelve months with your head stuck permanently in your ADHD. Remember that you are more person than disorder.
Remember you are worthwhile and deserving. Remember that this is your year too.