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All I Want For Christmas Is A Working Frontal Lobe

Christmas Wishes
Merry Christmas …

So, yeah, there’s no cure for ADHD. It’s like asking for a cure for red hair, ain’t going to happen.

You play the hand you’re dealt. And we’re dealt this one.

Our right hemisphere is closer in size to the left, which is abnormal, apparently. Also we don’t produce the right brain chemistry, or not the correct proportions of it.

We have wit, but sometimes it seems like we’re witless.

We got this!

Sometimes when I say that I’m cheering you on. We got this! We can handle it. We’ve had years of practice and we’ve developed coping mechanisms so yeah, we’ve got this.

But sometimes I’m fully aware that this insidious disorder is often in full control of my attention and abilities to focus and I am lamenting the crap we put up with and go through because … we got this.

If I could …

I would tell you about the vitamins that fix this. The therapy that works almost every time, the medication that alleviates all the symptoms and once they’re gone you’re cured.

I would tell you that the therapy you seek is to eat fish oil by the barrel, get the right timer, read all the self help books and when that was all done you’d be as neuro-typical as they come.

But that ain’t on my friend!

It’s almost new years and we’re about to start another year of this. And of course, we end the year with the most stressful season, and we all know what stress does to us.

Speaking of stress, why is it that there are things, many things, that make ADHD worse, but so few things that make it better.

And why is it that the things that make ADHD worse actually accelerate the issues making more issues as they go, like interest compounding on a debt, but the few things that help only help while we do them and as soon as we forget or take a break the benefit immediately disappears?

A little down?

Yes, okay, I’m feeling a little stressed. ‘Tis the season, right?” And yeah, I know I’m the guy that is usually positive and cheerful.

But it occurred to me that I wasn’t telling the whole story and that it was unfair of me to only give you all the positive side of my life.

So I’m telling you that there is stress here. And I’m telling you that I feel it, I get it. And I’m telling you I’m not some peace and love ADHD hippy trying to win over the world with flowers and joy.

But …

I actually am telling you that right now, beyond the therapy you’re currently using, there is also peace and love and joy … and yes, maybe even flowers.

Your attitude is the single most important thing that you can control and it is the thing that affects your ADHD symptoms the most.

So I’m asking Santa for a working frontal lobe, a cure I guess, but I’m pretty sure Santa doesn’t work that way.

And since I’m pretty sure of that, I’m going to ask myself for a gift this year. I’m going to ask myself to take it easy on me. I’m telling myself that I’m doing my best, and I’m believing that.

And I’d be happy if you did that too.

Merry Christmas everyone.

All I Want For Christmas Is A Working Frontal Lobe

Kelly Babcock

I was born in the city of Toronto in 1959, but moved when I was in my fourth year of life. I was raised and educated in a rural setting, growing up in a manner I like to refer to as free range. I live on the traditional lands of the Chippewas of Nawash in an area where my family history stretches back 6 or 7 generations and my First Nations friend's families go back hundreds of generations. I was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 50 and have been both struggling with the new reality and using my discoveries to make my life better. I am a freelance writer and I write two blogs here at Psych Central, one about living with ADHD and one that is a daily positive affirmation that acts as an example of finding the good in as much of my life as I possibly can.

Find out more about me on my website: writeofway.

email me at ADHD Man

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Babcock, K. (2018). All I Want For Christmas Is A Working Frontal Lobe. Psych Central. Retrieved on August 5, 2020, from


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