People with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder are more likely to have difficulty communicating.
And as is often the case with manifestations of ADHD related issues, there are several reasons for this.
Consider, just for starters, the fact that each word one hears must first be recognized.
Yes, I know we have minds, I know that the idea that we can’t recognize words might be insulting, but that wasn’t my point.
We recognize most, if not all of the words, but having done that, we often find ourselves realizing that we forgot to put their meanings together to discern the meaning of the sentence we just heard.
On more than one occasion I’ve had to ask for a sentence to be repeated.
That’s not all
There have been times when the third or fourth time I’ve asked I’ve had to say, “Can you repeat that in a different way, possibly using other words, please?”
I am embarrassed when that happens, and yet I recognize it not as an intellectual problem, but as an ADHD problem.
I thought my brain was in gear, but I’d obviously left some connection undone somehow.
In automobile parlance …
We call it a false neutral. Sometimes when you’re driving an old vehicle with a stick shift, you think you’re in second or third and you let out the clutch and gun the accelerator and nothing happens other than the engine roaring.
My brain does that sometimes when I’m listening. But it also does it when I’m talking.
I have a massive, ponderous, vast and deep vocabulary. Sadly, it is not always at my disposal. And the oddest thing about it is that I often know there is a word for the concept I am trying to convey and I know that I know that word, but I cannot figure out where I left it, cannot figure out what the word is … even though I’d swear it’s on the tip of my tongue.
The number of times I have to use a thesaurus on any given day while I’m writing just to look up words I know but can’t remember is embarrassing.
And then …
There is one more problem that makes communication difficult for us. And I remember the word for that very well.
The word is, “inappropriate!”
And it fouls up our communications by sidetracking conversations and destroying relationships and associations, romances, liaisons, any kind of rapport that we might establish with others can be destroyed in an instant by us saying something that was not thought out in advance.
All this …
Every bit of this causes us to have communication problems.
Being a writer means they are particularly painful to me, but they embarrass us all when they occur.
And we have only one recourse, and that is to deal with the shortfall of communication in our lives.
A pity, since communicating with people is something that most of us adore doing.