It’s October the 23rd, 2018. And I live in Canada.
The days can be warm this time of year, or they can be cool.
This year, we’ve seen snow already, last year we were still swimming in the bay on the 22nd … quickly in and out, just to say we’d done it mostly.
I’m looking at the snowblower in the back shed and getting ready to load it up. It spends the winter there in the back of my truck, providing some weight for traction, but mostly being accessible and ready to go if I need to clear out the driveway here or at the cottage, or if I get a call to clear out someone else’s drive.
Ready, set …
Being ready is the key to weathering the winter, the key to weathering any storm.
And ADHD is really no more predictable than the weather is.
Does being ready apply to ADHD?
And does it work?
Of course it does. It works about as well as being ready for the weather does.
Which is to say, it works if the ADHD storms come when you think they will.
Last year at this time we were packing our bathing suits to go to the cottage.
As I told you, I’m looking at loading up the snowblower already.
And if I do, does that mean we’ll get snow?
We might as easily revert to temperatures in the sixties and even low seventies for a while.
Does this apply to ADHD?
Yeah, I kind of drifted off there, eh?
Listen. Thanksgiving is coming. And you know how that usually goes for you, right?
So what could you do to make that turn out better?
Now you get it. There could be a holiday ADHD storm brewing. You need to figure out the Thanksgiving equivalent of loading up the snowblower and packing your bathing suit at the same time.
And yes, that is an analogy for ADHD, you never know what’s coming and you’ll be the one that’s ready for the wrong thing if you just leave it up to chance.
And yes, no one can really predict the weather accurately all the time, ADHD or not, but that’s not really what I’m talking about.
With ADHD …
… it’s much too easy to miss the possibilities coming at you. In the Thanksgiving example, you will, if you’re like me, volunteer to do more than you should.
And you’ll put those things off until the last minute.
If you’re lucky, you’ll start them with just enough time to get them done, though because of our poor sense of time and timing that’s unlikely.
But then, on the way to Thanksgiving, you’ll realize that you need gas in the car to get all the things there. And when you stop for gas you’ll discover that the line up for gas is unusually long on this particular day, that the gas station sells things you never knew you needed until now, that you’re actually hungry and there is fast, though maybe questionable food for sale here, and lastly that your wallet or purse is not part of what you packed.
By the time you sort that out, the hot stuff has cooled, the frozen stuff has melted, dinner has been served without you, and some of the family has already left the gathering, and you’ve blown it again.
Maybe. But sometimes ADHD, or life with ADHD goes exactly like that.
And if it does go like that, it’s true that we know how to cope.
But we know how to cope from practice, and that says a lot right there, right?
Practice does not make perfect.
And perfect is not a word that came from our vocabulary.
Our words are “weather” and “storm” … and “get ready, here it comes!”
Our word is “cope.”
Good luck. I’m cheering for you to weather every storm.