Losing someone you love is hard.
Breaking your back and your heart at a job in order to feed your family and then being fired? That’s hard.
Believing you’re doing your best and then failing, loving someone and having them blow you off, working at making something happen and then having that thing be preempted …
But having ADHD is like falling off a log.
I don’t have to work at being distracted. It just happens.
I don’t have to fake being bored out of my skull in certain situations, I am very much driven crazy by knowing all the things I could and would be doing if I weren’t tied to a seat in some orchestrated situation where the focus of attention is on something akin to paint drying or grout being cleaned with a toothbrush.
Dealing with such situations is devilishly hard on me, but that’s because I have ADHD.
And I would do almost anything to not have these painful situations visited on me.
But tough noogies! There ain’t a thing I can do about it.
But there are pluses …
Yes, there are. Those of us with ADHD are the cool kids. Okay, maybe we’re not, but we don’t care, and that’s cooler than being the cool kids, so yeah, we really are the cool kids, it’s just that the ones who think they’re the cool kids don’t know that … yet.
So when it comes to pure, unadulterated, spontaneous fun and adventure, who do the others want to hang with?
That’s right, you. You with the ADHD, the one who has regretted saying “Hey. Watch this!” on more than one occasion.
Why do people seeking adventure want to hang with you? Because you are raw, uncooked, fresh picked, never from frozen concentrate, pure old fashioned adventure.
You jump when others hesitate. You laugh when others don’t see the humor. You speak when others would be silent. You make mistakes and then laugh about it.
In short, you, me, we, we give people permission to just be.
And yes, I know …
We aren’t all like that. We actually aren’t any of us like that. But we put on a good show, a great act.
And why? Because we’d like to be those people that don’t care about screwing up, that are just trying to have fun and get through.
And that’s hard work, all that pretending that we’re okay with ourselves.
And what’s worse …
We know that we will always have to do that.
Because we know that we can’t change.
We’re going to jump when others hesitate. We’re going to laugh when others don’t see that humor. We’re going to speak in the silence. We’re going to make mistakes …
Because ADHD is easy. It’s “Not ADHD” that’s damned hard.