I’ve had some experience with this.
My ADHD is the type that makes me talk. A lot.
And typical conversations don’t last long before I’m reminded of my ADHD by something someone (likely me) says.
When ADHD comes up, one of two things happens.
And they are?
Well, usually I start talking about ADHD, and no one can get a word in even if it’s folded up, put in an envelope, and slid under the door.
But occasionally the other thing happens, where I take a breath and whomever I was talking to asks a question or makes an observation.
And then, I get to tell them a thing or five. Okay, it’s usually one of these five things that becomes the focus of our conversation.
Yes, ADHD is a real thing. It is a mis-development or a different development of the brain, primarily affecting the frontal lobe and having an effect on brain chemistry and brain communication.
The reality is that, and I’m not trying to insult anyone here, ADHD cannot be any less real just because you don’t believe in it. And it isn’t any less real because that one idiot doctor who says it isn’t real is held up by the press as being half the scientific community when in fact the two halfs of the real scientific community are only divided on their idea of how to punish that dork. (Some feel that having to live with his own suspect and clearly non-functioning intellect is punishment enough; others mumble about the return of the death penalty.)
ADHD is not caused by sugar. Or vaccines. It’s not caused by bad parenting or poor diet. It is heritable, you get it from your parents usually, though it may be that it also develops spontaneously, and there is some thought currently that suggests that trauma can cause a non-heritable variation.
But no, it is not “caused” by anything that is done to the child who grows to have this condition.
Third, What? No!
You say you told that stupid doctor that you knew your child couldn’t have ADHD because he/she is way too inteligent?
Surprise!!! ADHD has nothing to do with intellect. Some of us are idiots (about the same percentage of Neuro-typicals that are idiots in fact). But many of us are actually quite smart. And the extra effort we have to put in to focusing and the fact that we are always noticing random things that may or may not connect to other things (that’s called distraction) means we get a fair bit of brain training that helps us develop and maintain neuro-plasticity.
Fourth thing is … NO!
We are not addicted to stimulant medications. In fact, many of us don’t take them for various reasons. Personally, they cause anxiety in me, an unfortunate side effect, ’cause I could happily be addicted to the focus they helped give me.
But the truth is that I could easily forget to take my medication on any given day. Does that sound like an addiction?
An example of one of those days is when, at three in the afternoon, I suddenly realize that I was trying to get the laundry done and I’m out in the driveway under my truck trying to figure out some aspect of truck maintenance while the smoke detector in my house is going off because I put water on to boil an hour ago to make lunch and I suddenly realize that I’m not very organized today and when I check my med dispenser … sure enough, there is this morning’s pill …
And Fifth, YES!!
Yes, it’s frustrating. Yes this insidious disorder plays hell with my daily life.
But yes …. yes, yes, yes, I love life. I love my life. I love my ADHD life.