I am the first person to tell you that whatever gets you through the rough parts is okay by me.
Well, you know what I mean, whatever helps you get done what you need to do, do that.
I’m a big fan of the expression, “Make progress, not excuses.”
But I still understand that some tools weren’t meant for some jobs, and our brains aren’t wired for the life of a neuro-typical person.
So, a different way of thinking?
Yeah, okay. We think differently. But lately I’ve been hearing that worded as, “ADHD is just a different way of thinking.”
And dammit, it is not “JUST” a different way.
The way this thought is stated it sounds like we’re just supposed to say, “Oh well, didn’t file my income tax ’cause I think differently.
Try it, see if it works …
“Sorry, Mr. IRS man, I didn’t file my taxes because I have ADHD.” “Oh, well, that’s okay, we’ll try again next year.”
Now it’s true that if you get representation or if you know the system, you can sometimes get enough lenience to be allowed time to catch up, but that doesn’t happen without a struggle.
So what am I saying?
Having ADHD means our brains work differently, think differently, are different.
But that isn’t an excuse.
Oh, you knew that?
So the whole thing is that we want to be accepted? We want people, other people, to realize that we aren’t wrong or broken, we’re just different?
Okay, so then we don’t need any more research done? We don’t need better medication or therapy to help us manage life in a world where eighty to ninety percent of the population isn’t us?
We don’t need any intervention to live in this world where that same eighty to ninety percent sets the standards and parameters of how things will be and where we then try to twist our “just different” minds and lives into some convoluted shape that will conform?
The hell I say!
Don’t tell me it’s “Just” a different way of thinking, tell me how to take that different way of thinking and make it have value. I don’t want to be accepted as different, I want to be actually valued for those differences.
And if that valuation cannot be realized, then I want to know why, and I want to know what we can do to fix it so that we are valued for the differences.
And until that happens, saying “ADHD is just another way of thinking” is “just another insipid platitude.”
Just another reason to ignore what is required to make this right.