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Ride The Wave

Ride this!

Have you ever surfed? I haven’t. I bet it’s fun.

Imagine staying in a permanent downward run on a hill of water that just keeps moving itself forward while gravity keeps you stuck to the front of it.

I mean, I know that’s how it’s supposed to work. I’m guessing it takes a bit of practice, right?


But there is a wave I ride every day of my life.

Sometimes it’s a comber. Sometimes it’s just a swell, strong and powerful but looking calm and steady.

Sometimes it’s a rogue and I end up wishing I could get off and find another wave to ride.

No luck?

That wave? It’s my life.

Get off and find another? How do you do that?

You see …

With the exception of getting off a wave and heading out for more, the surfing analogy of life is perfect.

Perfect if you equate one wave with one life.

Now I don’t want to get into a debate about afterlife or heaven or reincarnation or anything like that.

Whatever you believe

Whichever of those schools of thought are true or not true, what we are dealing with in the here and now is this one single life.

And our wave changes character without much warning.

And my wave goes rogue … a lot!

But there’s this!

Even when we fall, we stay with the wave. And somehow, our feet are stuck to the surfboard, ’cause when we get back up, there it is underneath us.

Yes, we often find ourselves dragging along on the crest of the wave trying to get our balance back and get out in front.

And yes, sometimes we get too smart for our own good and we get way out in front of the wave where it’s easy to stay up, but then we lose momentum and when that wave catches up to us and slams us ahead, we find ourselves struggling again.

The wave …

I said the wave is our lives, but it’s really everything that’s in our lives.

It’s out jobs and our homes, our families and our friends and those who would try to take us out with stigma and rejection.

It’s the things we do and the things we love and the things we have to do that we don’t love and it’s the things we want to do that we think we’ll love and maybe we will …

But more importantly in all of that, it’s ours.

Our waves!

Yes, even when it’s gone rogue, your wave, your life, is yours.

It’s yours and you’re stuck with it.


It’s yours and no one else can have it, either.

Make of it what you can and cherish it while you can, this ADHD wave is your life.

It’s all you get, it will be enough in the end, or it won’t. But it will be who you were.

It is who you are.

Ride The Wave

Kelly Babcock

I was born in the city of Toronto in 1959, but moved when I was in my fourth year of life. I was raised and educated in a rural setting, growing up in a manner I like to refer to as free range. I live in an area where my family history stretches back 6 or more generations. I was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 50 and have been both struggling with the new reality and using my discoveries to make my life better. I write two blogs here at Psych Central, one about having ADHD and one that is a daily positive affirmation that acts as an example of finding the good in as much of my life as I possibly can.

Find out more about me on my website: writeofway.

email me at ADHD Man

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APA Reference
Babcock, K. (2018). Ride The Wave. Psych Central. Retrieved on February 18, 2019, from


Last updated: 26 Jun 2018
Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 26 Jun 2018
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