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Taking the Day Off

Sick
No really … I am!

Hello.

I’m sick. I’m going to take the day off. I’ll write a blog post for you on Friday, I promise.

Don’t look at me like that. I’m sick. I really am.

I mean, I know that I’ve made excuses in my life. Before I knew I had ADHD I made excuses all the time for the things I did and the way I lived and the way I skipped around from thing to thing.

And most especially I spent a great deal of time making excuses for the things I didn’t get done. Excuses to people who had expectations of me, excuses to people I let down, and excuses to myself that were often lies.

Lies?

Have you ever noticed that it’s easier to lie to yourself than to anyone else? No? That’s because you probably believed all those lies you told yourself.

And you had proof, right? “I didn’t do that because I obviously don’t care about it.”

But if you didn’t care, why did you have to keep repeating that line? Why did you keep asking yourself that question.

Sick!

Wait a minute, why are we talking about this, I told you I’m sick. I’m taking the day off.

Oh yeah, we were talking about me making excuses. I said I don’t do that. And it’s true that since I was diagnosed I make far fewer excuses.

And it isn’t because I just tell myself, “You didn’t do that ’cause you got ADHD.” I have far fewer occasions to need excuses.

What?

It used to go like this:

  • I have to get project X done
  • I don’t feel like it
  • I’ll do it later
  • I still have three days
  • Wait, what? It was due yesterday? Whatever
  • Let’s ride bikes

Now it goes kind of like this:

  • I have to get project X done
  • I don’t feel like it
  • But that’s not a good reason, it’s me letting my ADHD run my life
  • I’ve gotten some of it done and I still have three days, I’ll do some more each day
  • Wait, what? I’m done and it’s not due ’til tomorrow?
  • Let’s ride bikes!

Day off

Damn, I was totally going to take a day off. And I deserve one, I really do.

Don’t believe me? Check the listings. My contract calls for an average of three posts a week and in over six years I’ve never missed doing three posts a week.

So I’m taking the day off, dammit! Forget I wrote this.

Unless it helps you understand the use of a diagnosis as a tool for making your life somewhat better. In that case, I totally wrote this.

Taking the Day Off

Kelly Babcock

I was born in the city of Toronto in 1959, but moved when I was in my fourth year of life. I was raised and educated in a rural setting, growing up in a manner I like to refer to as free range. I live in an area where my family history stretches back 6 or more generations. I was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 50 and have been both struggling with the new reality and using my discoveries to make my life better. I write two blogs here at Psych Central, one about having ADHD and one that is a daily positive affirmation that acts as an example of finding the good in as much of my life as I possibly can.

Find out more about me on my website: writeofway.

email me at ADHD Man


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APA Reference
Babcock, K. (2018). Taking the Day Off. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 24, 2018, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/adhd-man/2018/05/taking-the-day-off-2/

 

Last updated: 9 May 2018
Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 9 May 2018
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