the right way ... maybe

Well, it works for me.

I live my life as large as I can.

Well, as large as I can without letting my ADHD take over completely.

I mean, if I could do it without all the negative ramifications, I’d just do it all, big and loud, climb every tree, shout out everything that pops into my mind, drive fast and hard, see how far I can throw my phone, how much pop I can drink in one go, try flipping every switch I see, pushing every button, clicking every icon …

But …

We all know that we can’t do that. We have to find a happy medium between flipping all the switches and holding still an motionless until we snap.

And it often seems like there isn’t one.

Well, there’s this …

Because I have ADHD, I move on from things easily if I’m moving on because something new has distracted me.

So when I know I’m not supposed to push every button in the elevator, I don’t have to refrain from doing that for ever, only until the next impulse comes along to distract me. It’s that simple.

And it’s a way …

It’s a way of life. It’s the ADHD way of life, and, it’s my way of life.

It turns out that knowing what my life actually is like, instead of wondering why it isn’t like everyone else’s is a big help.

I know that if I go into a meeting about something that doesn’t really interest me, I’d better have a plan to do something that will make me look busy or attentive or both.

I tell you

There are ways. If I ask myself questions in advance about whatever the topic is, I can sometimes generate enough interest to actually focus. If that’s not on, I can try to anticipate what the presenter is going to say, and then compare it to what they actually do say.

Worst case, I bring a notebook and a few pencils and, under the guise of taking notes and being interested I can doodle or write. I just have to remember to look up and nod now and then. When I get to this stage I gotta hope that whatever I’m supposed to be learning isn’t important.

So I do this

I figuratively keep my eyes on the road ahead, the road of life I guess that would be. I try to plan what I need to do to keep myself on track.

I do things like set a timer and clip it to my shirt when I put a pot on the stove. I leave the laundry basket in the hallway to remind myslef that there’s laundry in the machines. I put things in my way so that I won’t forget them.

I plan out what I’ll need when I go to places and try to arrange to have those things available when I get there. Things like an extra pair of shoes on a road trip that I put in the trunk of the car the day before I leave.

Having ADHD really is a way of life, not a life in the way. And while fixing it isn’t possible, living it is.

It’s totally possible to live a good life with ADHD. I’m doing it.