Attitude isn’t anything when you have ADHD, it’s everything!
And everyone with ADHD has an attitude. Trust me on that.
And you might as well know that it isn’t always a good one. In fact, pre-diagnosis, it isn’t ever a good one. Well, rarely.
Without the comprehension of ADHD, but with the disorder itself firmly fixed in your life, you don’t have the same chance of getting your life to work that most other people have.
The problem is …
ADHD won’t go away. You can’t fix it. It isn’t curable. And yes, it is most assuredly real.
So every time you think you’ve got it under control, even though you don’t know what it is or that you have it, you immediately try to deal with life in the same manner that you observe others dealing.
You actually long to be able to do that, to fit in, to be (*shudder) normal.
Don’t take this the wrong way, but you’re not normal. And by that I mean you are not the imaginary, averaged out person that you think everyone else is.
And in truth, you are pretty far removed from that person, so far removed that other people all look the same, like they really are that person.
And, I’m sorry that you want to be that person and can’t be.
So that’s why you have that attitude.
And I’m not trying to say you don’t deserve to have that attitude. There are days when I own it myself, own it all the way, paid off the mortgage seven times over and am now waving it at the world saying, “See this? Yeah, baby. All MINE!!!”
So I don’t blame you for your attitude. Not one bit.
… but …
Yeah, you knew that was coming, didn’t you. Well, I tell you what, you just listen to what I have to say and then you can go back to your attitude with my blessing. I really do understand how you came by it and why you have the right to it.
ADHD is a bitch.
But … if you set aside that attitude and take the time to look under the rocks and rotten logs in your distracted, inattentive, irreverent and often inappropriate life, you’ll find a few things about it that are great.
I’m not expounding the “gift” theory here. To hell with that, ADHD as a gift is in the same class as the flaming bag of dog doo on your doorstep.
But you have a wickedly fast brain, and it makes some wonderfully intriguing and interesting connections and observations.
Yes, you have to be ever vigilant about missing things, forgetting things, you have to initiate coping strategies and you cannot stop using them to get through life.
But you also get to experience all the inside jokes that only you see. And you get to light up problems like they were firecrackers or fourth of July rockets and watch them be solved in ways that others can only stand back and admire.
First, though …
First, before you can benefit from the differences of your mind, you have to cop a whole ‘nother ‘tude, dude.
First you have to accept this life you’ve been given.
You have to accept it, and you have to own it.
And on bad days, you can join me and we’ll be miserable together.