I’m a member of several online communities that are populated with people who have ADHD. These places are great for hanging out in.
They allow us to be ourselves, to relax. We are surrounded, when there, by people who are quick to point out inappropriateness, and even quicker to forgive it.
And these communities continue to grow. One of them, a Facebook group that’s been around for a few years now, seemed to be overwhelming when it hit 500 members. there are more then ten thousand of us there now. I can barely remember everyone’s name.
One of the constants of these groups is that people continue to join. It is an amazing feeling to find a group that accepts all the quirks that you had grown to resent about yourself, and to discover that in these communities people even revel in their uniqueness.
And as people become comfortable in these groups, they begin to realize that there is way more to this disorder than they originally thought.
It goes like this …
The number of conversation threads that begin with, “How many of you …” do this, feel this, think this, have this and the overwhelming response is always amazing.
And the odd things that are discussed would make your average neuro-typical’s head spin.
And when the newbies start asking questions like, “You mean we all are familiar with the emergency room?”, “You mean we all secretly want a tattoo of a squirrel?”, “Wait, how many of us are dyslexic?”, “You like speeding too?”, “I’m not the only one who volunteers for everything?” … it’s like watching the streetlights come on again and again and again.
So, going forward
The other thing I see that happens in these communities is that the newbies become comfortable with themselves, they find friends for life that they may never meet in real life, and they settle in to loving living their lives instead of fearing that living so much.
These groups don’t cure ADHD, but they go a long way to curing the effects of stigma toward ADHD.
When the world around you seems like it is judging you for being different, finding your tribe is a pretty wonderful feeling.
And the truth is …
Until you can accept yourself, you’ll spend your time spinning your tires trying to change things that just can’t be changed.
And until you can find people to look up to and respect, people who are like you, you will not be able to accept yourself fully.
So go to the twitter and the instagram and the good old Facebook, and search for the groups that collect your people, and start learning how to accept that you have things to do and places to go and you’re already ready to start that journey.
You, my friend, are ready to take on your life, going forward. You are ready.