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Working on relaxing

The what? Wait … what?

This blog is getting close to having a thousand posts. In fact, in three weeks it will have.

The first post was written by Dr John Grohol. It was an introduction to this blog. I don’t think either one of us had any idea it would have this kind of longevity, but we both did the best possible thing for it, we set no limits beyond integrity and a desire to inform and support.

And here it is, so very very old and still growing.

Time to relax

Yes. It’s time to take a break. I’ve written several posts and scheduled them. And starting next week while they publish themselves, clever things that they are, I will be relaxing.

That is, I’ll be trying to relax.

A slight problem …

Yes, you may have caught that. I have ADHD. Relaxing is not something I do very well.

And yet, I’m going to try.

Modifications anyone?

I’m going to try to leave most of my work behind. And I’m going to try not to stress about things. I am going to get myself out of the house, so as not to worry about things in the house; I’m hoping that if they are out of sight they truly will be out of mind.

But I’m packing screens, the computer, the phone, even my e-book and my MP3 player are coming with me.

I know, I know …

You’re asking me how I can get away from it all if I’m taking it all with me, and you’re right to ask.

But my mind is perfectly capable of taking it all with me and worrying over it all even without the accoutrements of work. If I have the means of access, hopefully that will allow me to simply set my mind at ease and go back to relaxing. At least, that’s my hope.

And I think this is valid. I think this is a good plan.

Where will my head be?

Will I be thinking about work even when I am trying to rejuvenate? Maybe. I can’t forecast what my brain will do. If I am thinking of work though, I can tell you that not being able to access it and put my mind at ease will not force me to relax.

I’m as certain about this as I can be about anything, that if I end up on holidays but working through them, it will be more relaxing than if I go on holidays and fret over things I’m unable to do anything about the whole time.

Part of coping with a disorder is accepting the things that don’t change, and part of that acceptance is to make changes to the context in which those unchangeable things occur.So taking access to work with me when I go on holidays is allowing me to create context.

But hey, maybe I’ll get there and forget all about work completely. If That happens … I’ll tell you all about it when I get back.

Working on relaxing

Kelly Babcock

I was born in the city of Toronto in 1959, but moved when I was in my fourth year of life. I was raised and educated in a rural setting, growing up in a manner I like to refer to as free range. I live in an area where my family history stretches back 6 or more generations. I was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 50 and have been both struggling with the new reality and using my discoveries to make my life better. I write two blogs here at Psych Central, one about having ADHD and one that is a daily positive affirmation that acts as an example of finding the good in as much of my life as I possibly can.

Find out more about me on my website: writeofway.

email me at ADHD Man

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APA Reference
Babcock, K. (2018). Working on relaxing. Psych Central. Retrieved on February 23, 2019, from


Last updated: 15 Jan 2018
Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 15 Jan 2018
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