I’m never going to tell you to settle. You’re worth way more than just settling.
I’m also never going to encourage you to strive for things you don’t want.
And there’s a connection there. Though they seem like they are sort of opposite things, don’t they.
The deal is, if you’re someone with ADHD and you’re listening to neuro-typical people telling you what you need to do and how you need to be, and those things aren’t what you want, then don’t sweat that shizzle.
Well, if I may be allowed one of my infamous analogies, it’s like lions and elephants. They both deserve respect, both are well engineered creatures, both suited to the lives they lead.
But what if one of them was unsure about what it was doing, how it should live, how it should survive? It would be ridiculous for the lion to tell the elephant to track its prey, hunt by scent, pounce swiftly and kill quickly.
Likewise, it would not suit the lion to take advice from the elephant, roaming in herds and eating grass and leaves wouldn’t work out well at all for the lions.
Are we the lions or …
Yeah, it doesn’t matter. We could be either, or neither. We’re the people with ADHD, and the point is that we don’t hunt the same as the neuro-typical humans. We’re not a different species, but we are not them.
And to return to the beginning of this post, we shouldn’t be listening to advice from them on how to survive and succeed.
And we should also remember that, though succeeding is difficult, we should not settle just because we have difficulty staying on task.
If you’re passionate
If there is something that you really want in your life, don’t let the challenge stop you and don’t let people tell you it isn’t reasonable. Don’t give up on your dreams because you have ADHD.
And don’t put them aside to accomplish things that aren’t really you.
Listen now …
I’m not suggesting that you don’t pay your bills or you should break the law, but maybe pursuing that 9 to 5 thing isn’t really going to be your path to success.
That also doesn’t mean I’m telling you to go ahead with your dream of opening a store front on main street to sell figurines made out of feathers and candy.
But I am telling you to give your dreams some room in your life. If you get to the end of your days and you discover that you spent your life pursuing other peoples ideas of what life should be, you’re going to be disappointed, trust me.
I got to the end of my thirties and discovered that, and I hadn’t even died.
I try to tell the musicians at my open mic that if they have passion and desire then they belong on my stage.
Pitch, timing, things like that usually improve with practice and experience, but you can’t teach passion and desire.
So I’m telling you the same thing, if you have passion, and if you have desire, you should be going for it … whatever your “it” is.
And when you arrive at your goal, you could tell them all that Kelly sent you, but I’d rather you just told yourself quietly that you made it because you went for it.