If we weren’t different from the rest of the population, our diagnosis would be much simpler.
We’d all be labeled … normal.
And man, wouldn’t that be dull and boring?
But we are different and it’s those differences that both make us the wonderful entities that we are, and make us miserable.
How are we different?
Yes, I know, we can’t even really agree on that, so how can we argue with people who think that ADHD isn’t real?
But we are different, we know it, it’s just hard to put into words sometimes.
But as one of the more verbose and talkative (pronounced, “yappy and incessant”) among us, I feel it behooves me to at least try.
So here goes …
We are easily distracted. And yes, I know that everyone knows what distracted is because everyone has been distracted, but when it happens to others, they glance at the distraction and say, “Darn! I’ve been distracted.” and they go back to their work
When we’re distracted, we say the same thing, but that’s three days later after we’ve been wandering from distraction to distraction and have only realized it when we passed back through the dining room for the first time on the third day since and remember we were ironing pants to wear because they’re sitting on the ironing board beside the still plugged in and scalding hot iron.
Dare we check to see if we’re wearing pants?
ADHD makes us wonderful?
You know it. We’re the ones that will say the things that others want to say without filters. We’re the ones that say the things that no one else thought to say, again without filters.
We’re the ones that plan the over the top things to do, five seconds ago, and then we’re doing it. We’re the ones that climb the trees and the mountains and do the things that others won’t because they see the box around them and we’re all like, “Box? There’s a box?”
We’re the ones who don’t see the problem when it comes to having fun and being spontaneous.
So, how could it make us miserable?
When we do the wrong things, we didn’t do them because we didn’t care about the outcome, or how it would affect others. When we did those things, it was because we didn’t see the potentially bad ramifications of our actions. And sometimes people are affected because we’ve hurt ourselves and they care about us.
If we had realized that what we were doing would affect others negatively, we shouldn’t have done those things.
And we feel badly about those negative effects. And when we regret, we do it like bosses. We suffer badly.
So the biggest differences are?
Ha, trick question. The biggest difference is that our brains have developed in a different way from the neurotypical homo-sapiens’ brain.
But the results of that difference in development is what manifests most obviously.
And the results are that we operate differently from the rest of the world, and to a very great extent, we’re okay with that.
We’re different … and we’re okay.