I’ve put this off way too long
Back in 2012 I wrote a post about Christmas.
It was written in the style of the wonderful Dr. Seuss, and I loved doing it.
And yes, I should write another one, but I’m not doing that today.
Today I’m pointing out that back in 2012, that post was originally published on December 28th.
That’s right …
… three days after Christmas.
And now, a mere five years after that, I’m apologizing for the lateness of that post.
To make up for it, I’ve allowed it to be reposted on another site, See In ADHD, and it went out in time.
Didn’t help back then though
Now the post itself is all about how we over extend ourselves at this time of year, how we plan more things than we could ever hope to accomplish, and how we end up being unhappy with ourselves, but a good deal of the post also deals with procrastination.
That one thing is one of the hardest things to deal with, one of the hardest things to explain, and one of the hardest things to admit to.
Well, it’s hard to admit to because it’s really admitting that we “actively” didn’t do what we were supposed to do. In other words we didn’t do whatever it was … on purpose.
And it’s nearly impossible to explain that we had no choice.
This is where it gets tricky …
The difference in the development of our brain means there is a part of it that is beyond anyone’s control, including ours.
And while we can almost always stop, gather our determination and push past procrastination, it is a wearisome load to bear up under and you can be sure that the next time we’re required to do that same thing, we will need to rest from the last time … and something has to give.
None of us …
Not a one of us is using this as an excuse.
We all talk about all the reasons that we mustered for the procrastination as the reasons for not getting done what we had to do. But at the base of it is the knowledge that we had likely decided to put it off, and the reasons we’re giving were gathered up to appease ourselves first, after the decision was made.
So, it’s really real?
“Yes, Virginia …” It’s as real as Christmas trees.
And now that you know it, I’m going to say the same thing I say every year at this time.
No, not Merry Christmas, though I wish you that if that’s what you celebrate.
I’m going to say, go easy on yourself this year over the holidays. The things you didn’t get done, odds are you noticed them more than others did, let them go.
And if others notice the undone things and are grinding your gears for you, look them in the eyes and tell them to take the holidays off from trying to fix you. Tell them … to go deck their own halls.
So for me, be good to yourselves, okay? Call it your Christmas present to me. Thanks. We got this.
Babcock, K. (2017). I’ve put this off way too long. Psych Central. Retrieved on April 21, 2018, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/adhd-man/2017/12/ive-put-this-off-way-too-long/