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I Don’t Need Help

Help wanted, sort of ...
Seriously … maybe.

Well, that’s patently false. I need all the help I can get.

I mean, I’m going to take on more than any human could do.

And although I’m a super human, it’s because I’ve got an open ended list of things to get done that it looks like I’m capable of so much.

Is this confusing?

It’s like this, there are people who have lists of ten or twenty things to do in a day and they do them well and they are busy and they are efficient and stuff gets accomplished when they’re on the job.

But that’s not me!

Oh, don’t get me wrong. I have that same list. And I often get those twenty things done. Well, I sometimes get them all done.

And I usually do them well. But not necessarily efficiently.

And …

And I also do thirty other things that came up during the course of the day.

We’ll call that the “spontaneous list.” It’s a collection of stuff that consists of things that were on previous lists that didn’t get done or maybe just didn’t get finished, and things that I discover need doing and the best time to do them is now (because the only time that is real for me is now).

And yes …

I could always use help getting things done, but …

There’s this problem. Maybe it’s two problems.

Firstly, if you’re going to help me, you can’t really do what I’m already doing. I mean, if we don’t have a plan, and you’re not used to working with me, than all you’re going to do is do things I would do while I watch and then watch while I do things.

It’s like this

If what I’m doing is a one off, then I can’t really explain how to do it until I’m doing it. Now don’t get me wrong, that’s the kind of thing I’m really good at, but good at by myself.

But the other problem is, if you choose to do something else to help me out, and if you are constantly asking me “What’s next?” then you’re taking my head out of what I’m doing each step of the way.

And it takes me a while to get my head back into what I’ve been interrupted from.

We call it …

Transitioning. We call it transitioning, and we don’t do it well.

You asking me about another job could easily make me want to go do that job. It will take me a while to get my mind to return to this job. And when I do, you’ll be asking me about the next step, because you got your next step done as soon as I told you what it was.

Is this real?

Okay, this doesn’t happen all the time. But it does happen enough. And we can’t control when it will affect us. And I’m working on ways of telling people why I’m upset or why I’m not being as productive as I feel I should be when it happens.

And the bottom line is … I don’t need help, but I really do.

And thanks for not interrupting me while I told you all this. Now I have a budgillion other things to do. Bye!

I Don’t Need Help

Kelly Babcock

I was born in the city of Toronto in 1959, but moved when I was in my fourth year of life. I was raised and educated in a rural setting, growing up in a manner I like to refer to as free range. I live in an area where my family history stretches back 6 or more generations. I was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 50 and have been both struggling with the new reality and using my discoveries to make my life better. I write two blogs here at Psych Central, one about having ADHD and one that is a daily positive affirmation that acts as an example of finding the good in as much of my life as I possibly can.

Find out more about me on my website: writeofway.

email me at ADHD Man


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APA Reference
Babcock, K. (2017). I Don’t Need Help. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 20, 2018, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/adhd-man/2017/12/i-dont-need-help/

 

Last updated: 6 Dec 2017
Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 6 Dec 2017
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