Transitioning: It’s Taken Fifty Eight Years
As a child, like all other children, I did not transition from one thing to another easily. We need the development of our brains for that.
And for some of us that development never becomes complete, leaving us with varying degrees of ability in that regard.
But what is transitioning? Well, let me tell you.
Transitioning is …
Transitioning is the ability of the mind to put something away and move on to the next thing. Especially if they are completely different things.
I’m not talking about going from one step to the next in a sequence of steps designed to accomplish some end. I’m talking more about finishing the laundry and then going to cut the lawn. Or more likely for people like me, going from writing or having a meeting online to doing the dishes.
How it works … or doesn’t
One of the first clues that you have ADHD is in early childhood or youth, when you become involved in something like a video game or TV show or even a book, and something comes up that you’re needed to do or attend to.
You won’t recognize that you have trouble, because you’ll be too busy being angry. We get upset when we’re “taken out” of something we’re concentrating on.
And we feel justified
The truth is that focus is such a rare commodity for us and when it happens, whether it is focus on the right thing or not, it feels very good to be able to stay there.
So when we’re pulled away from whatever we were focusing on we get upset.
And if we pull ourselves away?
Now we’re getting to it. Trying to transition ourselves, or self-transition, takes a lot of will power. It’s hard work, tiring, and the more we tire, the harder it is to do.
But, the more we practice it, the easier it becomes in the long term.
It’s like exercise
Exactly. It’s exercising the parts of our brain that need to be used to accomplish this.
And I was doing that long before I knew I had ADHD. Though I was doing it without acknowledging that that was what I was doing.
And I wasn’t always as successful. Like anything else, if you think you’re just trying to fix something for right now and you aren’t recognizing that you’re having to do this every day, you’re not going to be as effective.
But now that I know
Being diagnosed with ADHD has been a bit of a mixed bag for me.
I’m not happy that I’ve got these issues to deal with, but the reality is that I had them all along, the diagnosis didn’t make them any more real. It just made me more aware of them.
And being more aware has helped me deal with them in a more effective manner.
I’m not a fan of saying things like “Embrace your ADHD,” or any other new age stuff like that. But I will tell you with the strongest conviction I can muster, that the more you know and the more you accept the nuances of your disorder, the easier it becomes to deal with those issues.
Okay, I have to go do dishes now.
Babcock, K. (2017). Transitioning: It’s Taken Fifty Eight Years. Psych Central. Retrieved on November 20, 2017, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/adhd-man/2017/11/transitioning-its-taken-fifty-eight-years/