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Sometimes I reply … at least I try to

So here’s a thing.I write these posts, and often people comment on them. I try to answer them, but I’m a busy ADHD boy.

Lots of times they grab my attention and I write a response. But other times I don’t even see them. You should know that there are editors at Psych Central, this is no kiddy-show set up. These people are professional.

But today, I found a comment that hadn’t yet been approved, and I read it and approved it and answered it … and now I think it’s worth sharing. Here’s the comment that a reader who calls themself “godzillabugg” made on a post called “Staying On Time”:

“I just recently realized that this is a huge problem that destroys almost all of my days and drives the people around me crazy. I am a somewhat intelligent person in general but when I try to explain this problem to others I hear myself sounding like a complete idiot -it’s very frustrating. It actually happens every time I try to explain any of the aspects of my life to people. I mean hearing myself say “Once I have learned everything that there is to learn about any real job that I have I guess I just get bored or something…then I start showing up late… then I just stop going and get fired” makes me feel a lot less intelligent than I am – I know that I am supposed to be able to just do something (like be on time or keep a job) but I have failed every time. I just keep trying to create ways to trick myself into being able to function normally. I hide my afternoon medication in my pocket because I know at some point I will all of a sudden wonder what is in my pocket and when I discover my pill I will take it. The first time I explained this to someone I realized most people know what they have in their pockets. Whatever. My idea to try to help train me to have a better sense of time is get a watch or something that will beep every five or ten minutes to get my unconscious brain trained and hopefully more aware of the concept of time passing. Sorry for the long comment – kinda just started to ramble I guess.”

And my answer …

Listen, godzillabugg, you’re not a “somewhat intelligent person.” You are a very intelligent person. You’ve been living a life in a world where everything surrounding you points to you being the same as everyone else.

And you are not

You’ve figured this out. You have. You’re obviously working on coping mechanisms. You’re trying to forge a path through a landscape that has no trails because you are a unique individual.

Keep going. That’s my advice. No one has had any training that will make them better qualified to guide you through your life. You’re the one with the experience that counts. You’ve seen your life from the inside and that means you are the only one with a chance to figure it out.

Help may help

Mental health care professionals may be able to offer you some insight. If you feel that’s a way you’d like to go, than by all means avail yourself of them, but remember to participate because you’re the one holding all the cards, you have all the information on what being you is all about.

And cope!

I often use a timer set to ten minutes just like the watch you talk about. Every time it goes off I reset it and ask myself, “What are you doing? And what were you supposed to be doing.”

Also, I don’t know what your medication is, but if it is Methylphenidate, consider the brand called Concerta. It’s a twelve hour mechanical release capsule that works perfectly every time.

I hope things get better for you, but most of all I hope you continue to drive the people around you crazy, because that means they are sticking around to be driven crazy, and that means they see the value in you.

Good luck,
Kelly