Have you ever seen that poster that shows a picture of the our galaxy with an arrow pointed to an insignificant looking spot in the middle of what seems like a billion stars?
And the legend at the info end of that arrow reads, “You Are Here!”
And it’s funny. I mean, we look around us today at all we’ve done and all we’re capable of, and the billions of us that comprise humanity are all crammed into this little tiny space that would be obliterated by the point of that arrow if it really existed in the scale it is depicted on that poster.
And yet …
As isolated as all of humanity looks in that image, it gives a fairly accurate image of how those of us with ADHD can feel.
We’re like a single planet, orbiting our home with the rest of our family, and crowded into a neighborhood with billions of other planet people orbiting their homes for as far as the eye can see and even farther.
Yes. And yet, no. Feeling mobbed, yet isolated.
Feeling … alone in a crowded room.
We feel like we aren’t understood. And we feel like we don’t understand others.
And we feel like we maybe don’t even understand ourselves, at least not well enough to be able to explain ourselves to others.
And we struggle
We try to rectify the misunderstandings. At least, we try to understand others and ourselves.
I personally spent years of my life, determined to figure out what it was I was missing.
Not all the info
But yeah, I didn’t have all the information I needed for that task.
And the big piece of information that was missing, still is missing.
And that piece is?
I will never understand how neurotypical minds work, because I don’t have one.
Oh sure, I can accept that they don’t get distracted easily, but I don’t know how that works or what it’s like.
But back to the big picture
Ah yes, the galaxy picture. You Are Here! And there is a little hint in there that may help you out. It helps me out all the time.
And that hint is pretty blatant. It’s this: “You really and truly are right here.”
We start from here
And yes, here is where we start from.
Every day when you wake up, it’s a new start, the first day of the rest of your life as they say. I know that sounds a little trite, but like many trite things, it’s also true.
And like many things that are true but ignored, it can actually be helpful if you acknowledge it and accept it, and use it to its fullest advantage.
Stop wasting your time trying to understand the others, it can’t be done. Just accept that this is life and it’s here for living. Now live it.