This Is It!
Seriously. This is it. I’m done!
I’m done with ADHD, I’ve had enough. I’m done with people assuming I can’t focus on things. That’s crazy. Not the inability to focus, them thinking I can’t, they’re the crazy ones.
It’s true that I have trouble controlling my focus, but I can focus. Stop saying I can’t.
I’m going to hide!
I’m just going to hide out from the people who think that ADHD isn’t real because they heard their neighbor’s brother-in-law say so and why would he say that? And also, they read it somewhere on the internet and if it’s in print it must be so, right?
These people scare me. They really do. How do they function? They’ll listen to anything said with conviction and buy that load of contrived crap and eat it up.
Fake news has been around for a long time. You want to talk about “fake news?” ADHD is caused by vaccines, poor parenting, refined sugar. It can be cured by punishment, brain training, herbs and tinctures. There’s your fake freaking news.
And when you hear it on the street you can easily recognize it because it’s the garbage that’s usually prefaced with phrases like, “Well, I heard that ADHD is …”
And another thing …
Just one more thing? Nope, I have lots of things. To the woman who told me they tried to diagnose her son but she wouldn’t let them because she didn’t want him to be labeled, SHUT UP! You didn’t want you to be labeled as the mother of a child with ADHD and because of that you were willing to deny him the help that was available for him.
And the one who said to me, “I told them my child couldn’t have ADHD ’cause they’re too intelligent.” … yep, your child is probably more intelligent than you are, let’s hope they’re intelligent enough to seek real help and not just self medicate with whatever they can find.
And it goes on …
Don’t tell me that your child benefits from you giving them herbal remedies, they benefit from you showing concern and trying to help. If the stuff is cheap and not harmful, continue, by all means, but recognize that the child is benefiting from your love and acceptance far more than the alfalfa tablets.
Don’t tell me your kid can’t have ADHD because she doesn’t run around like crazy, bouncing off walls. She’s running around like crazy and bouncing off walls inside her day-dreaming head. She’s just not sharing that with you because you’re more interested in the appearance of normalcy, and she can give you that.
When will it end?
It will end when we accept that sitting in front of a video game for six hours solid does not mean that someone doesn’t have ADHD. It will end when we stop searching for “natural cures” and start accepting scientific research as valid.
In truth, it will never end, because we have ADHD, and we can’t cure it any more than we can cure blue eyes or nearsightedness. It will never end because ADHD is a different way of being.
And … this isn’t really it
I haven’t had it. I’m not done with ADHD. I’m not going anywhere.
I just needed to rant, needed to vent a little frustration.
I’m still here, still ready to fight the good fight, ready to stand up for anyone who needs an advocate.
I’m still the same warrior I feel I should be. I’m still the ADHD Man of DistrAction.
Babcock, K. (2017). This Is It!. Psych Central. Retrieved on September 19, 2017, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/adhd-man/2017/09/this-is-it/