Despite the issues that are listed as symptoms of ADHD, there are other things we live with that are, perhaps secondary, but common enough to be referred to as aspects of the disorder.
The truth is that our symptoms are consistent enough in the population of people with ADHD that many negative aspects (and perhaps some positive ones) are commonly found in our lives.
So it isn’t surprising that in certain situations, it is, if not predictable, at least statistically likely that certain things might occur.
Things like …?
Well, things like … it is highly likely that if you have ADHD, and no one who takes care of your finances, that you are delinquent on your tax filing.
And it is possible that more than half of you just felt a twinge of anxiety reading that.
It’s a thing
It is. It’s also a thing that there are lawyers in larger urban centers in North America that advocate for people with ADHD when the taxman starts haunting them.
And additionally, the anxiety one feels when one is delinquent on their taxes makes us even more likely to put it off, since attending to it would have the consequence of forcing us to dwell on the thing that is giving us anxiety. That too, is a thing.
What else happens?
I’m involved currently in a couple of projects that are pretty big. Both of them possess the potential to pay off in the long run. Both of them will cost money from now until that long run payoff occurs. And both of them will pay dividends along the way.
Due to the nature of these activities I am not disclosing the actual facts about them at this time, at some point I will be unable to keep these things secret and you’ll maybe understand why I’m hesitant to spill the details.
But here’s the thing about them …
Both of them involve risk, they both will cost money, both up front and ongoing. And as I said, both of them will hopefully involve a payout of sorts so they involve reward.
And because of the cost, and because things can go wrong in any deal, there is the very real potential for anxiety, and if somethingย goes wrong (or even if nothing does beyond just the anxiety and dread of that potential), there can be consequences.
And because there is ADHD…
Yes, because there is ADHD in everything I do, there is potential for things to go wrong and that can exacerbate all the already ADHD exacerbated risk, reward, anxiety, and consequence issues.
And having ADHD means that I will find it easier to ignore and procrastinate.
But there are these two things …
Firstly, I’m not in these two projects alone. so there is both accountability and help.
And secondly, I now understand a lot of this stuff. Before my diagnosis I just drifted with the ADHD tide, now I know when to let my life raft drift and when to tie off to a piling or dock or another ship and ride against the current, get things done, find my way and not give in to procrastination or distraction until the storm is over.
And that’s hard, and it cannot be kept up, but it can be done until the that storm is over, then I can let myself get distracted for a while. I’ll let you know when that happens. It’s going to be soon.