What do you know about ADHD that you didn’t know before? What do you think you know about it? What can I tell you about it that you might want to know first hand from someone with this disorder?
Let’s start with this one fact: YES, DAMMIT!, IT EXISTS.
Sorry, didn’t mean to shout. Well, actually, I did mean to shout. I’m really just sorry that I feel I have to.
If you’ll promise to hear me out, I promise to be calm about it.
Keep calm and wander on …
Okay, so where were we? Oh yes, I was saying ADHD is real. And I wanted to add that it doesn’t go away. True story. It does change how it presents as we get older.
You see, ADHD is the symptomatic manifestation of the fact that our brains develop differently from what is expected. But develop they do. And like the rest of humanity, the ADHD brain continues to develop for the first three decades of life.
Really? Thirty years?
Yes. Really. Thirty years. Think about it, ADHD or not, you expect a 28 year old to be more responsible than an eighteen year old, right? You expect a thirty year old to be more responsible than a twenty year old. The reason is that at eighteen and twenty, and even at 25, the brain is still developing.
The same holds true for the brain with ADHD. We’re not going to arrive at the same place that the neuro-typical brain is going to arrive at, but we’re not done at 25 anymore than the NT brain is.
If you have ADHD there’s a fifty percent chance that your child will also. There’s a good chance, if you’re undiagnosed, that following up on your child’s distracted behavior will result in your being diagnosed.
If you have ADHD you are also more likely to have dyslexia, dysgraphia, or dyscalculia, or some other learning disability.
And see this …
Recent information that has been coming my way has me beginning to think that there is an increased likelihood that you will have vision trouble if you have ADHD. I am telling you this while I consider how badly I need to clean my glasses right now.
Additionally, I have begun to wonder if ADHD increases your potential to have fibromyalgia. There is some talk of fibro being “triggered” by trauma, and if you have ADHD you’re more likely to have a working knowledge of your local Emergency Room and where all the coffee dispensers are, because … well, physical trauma is sort of a way of life for many of us.
ADD this in too …
You have a greater chance of being left handed or mixed dominant if you have ADHD. You are more likely to have had multiple jobs, multiple hobbies, multiple relationships, multiple starts at education, multiple types of self medication, and multiple collections of things.
You’re more likely to have multiple key chain bling. You’re more likely to miss appointments. You’re more likely to have bad teeth. You’re more likely to volunteer for things that you’re more likely not to get done.
And last on this list …
Though obviously not the last thing by any stretch of any imagination, you are more likely to become angered over stupid claims like the idea that ADHD doesn’t exist, or that it is caused by bad parenting or refined sugar, or that it is only a boys disorder, or that we grow out of it.